I am very saddened by the closed post I just read.
a poor girl was reaching out to a community of people that she felt she could relate to asking for help, and people just criticized her, causing her to leave the site.
i came to this website because i'm in an LDR, and i needed an outlet. my friends sometimes get tired of listening to me, or I can't even contribute to their conversations because its all about the boys they are seeing now. i do not plan on leaving this site, but i am very shocked by the response that was given to the girl.
she made a comment about being in an LDR living 45 minutes away from someone. what she really didn't clearly state was that in LA it could take up to twice as long. she also mentioned that her job is 45 minutes in the opposite direction from even her house. so now we're talking about almost 2+ hours in traffic out of the way to see her boyfriend. 2+ hours is a time distance. also, she mentioned that he doesn't have a vehicle as a lot of people in college sometimes don't. the 45 minute distance turns into a lot longer if you don't have a vehicle.
regardless of my feelings on her distance situation, she was asking for support in a relationship where she feels far away. she acknowledged that there are are many people on here that have it much worse off, but she wasn't asking to be reminded of that. she was asking for help. and most people on here just got on her about how she's not in an LDR, and how they have thousands of miles apart. Last time I checked, this wasn't a competition. this was a support system, an outlet, and a place to reach out.
that girl closed her thread and left the site. i tried to PM her, but its probably too late.
I am disappointed. That's all.
/end rant.
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Of course, it's a shame they can't see each other more frequently, and I believe I read on the thread some saying that while they didn't think this was particularly LD, she was facing some similar issues and was welcome to stick around and discuss those.
I do understand why it is a very sensitive subject as far as distance. and i agree with almost every post on here, even the ones that contradict. i was just sad to see, that even though she wasn't asking to be criticized about something, she was. anyway. i can definitely see how a post like that could be offensive as well.
i wish the girl had been more honest in her post, people might have been a bit more sensitive to her. not that this website is about patronizing people and being sensitive to others, its about supporting each other.
anyway, i think we can all agree that she did get support even with a slew of criticism, and it was a bit overly-dramatic to close the thread just because she didn't get 100% of the response she was looking for.