I've had a lot on my mind the past 2 days, so I think writing a blog will make me feel better...

A few weeks ago, I posted in the "WOYM" thread about a male friend of mine who was saying negative and nasty things about my relationship with my SO. Just a quick backstory on this guy: We had been friends for nearly 3 years, and everything had been fine until just a few months ago. Out of the blue, he started asking me why I would want to be with someone who lives so far away, someone who is really only "there" for me 2 times out the year when we see each other. I was annoyed, but I kept brushing off this nagging feeling, hoping that our friendship would go back to normal eventually. I realize now that I was making excuses for him, and that I should've ended this friendship a long time ago. I guess since we had been friends for so long, though, and had really good times together in the past, I was hesitant to cut off contact.

Two days ago, I decided it was best to end our friendship. He was making me really uncomfortable and annoyed, and I wasn't have fun being around him anymore. In fact, I felt anxious and nervous every time we planned to meet up. That's not how you should feel before seeing a friend :/
To make things even worse, he randomly showed up at my house that same night wanting to talk to me. I didn't answer the door because I was too afraid. It really just confirmed that I made the right decision by cutting contact with him.

So, fast forward to last night... I was still feeling a bit weird about this whole situation, so I decided to meet up with another guy friend of mine for dinner. I knew this guy from a class we had at university earlier this year, but to be honest, I didn't know him that well. We really only interacted during class, and I didn't know much about his personal life. We had met up once before for dinner a few weeks ago, and I had a nice time with no awkwardness involved, so I thought it would be fun to get out and get my mind off things. I was having a good time at first, but then he started getting really flirty with me, trying to hold my hand and get closer to me :/
In his defense, he didn't know that I had an SO. He doesn't know much about me at all, and I hadn't brought it up before because I didn't know how to bring up the subject. Also, I didn't think it really mattered, because I didn't think he would try to make a move on me. I feel like an idiot now and wish I had said something earlier...

All of this has made me wonder, why do I never have successful friendships with guys?? With the exception of one male friend of mine, every guy I've tried to be friends with has eventually wanted more...even knowing that I have an SO! I don't mean to say that I'm so hot and gorgeous, and that every guy on Earth wants to be with me, but this always seems to happen to me. I think it's partially because I'm generally a friendly and outgoing person, and I'm easy to approach. A lot of guys take my friendliness and personality as me being flirty and interested in them, which is not the case at all. My friends even call me a "creeper magnet". So, do I have to completely change my personality and become a bitchy, rude woman in order to keep my guy friends around? That's just not me.

I don't want to be that person who says that men and women can't be friends, because I think that's a close-minded and ignorant statement. I do know women who have lots of guy friends, and it's always worked out for them. I think I'm just becoming bitter and ready to give up on having guy friends... But who knows, maybe that will change one day.
Anyways, thanks for listening to my ramble. I hope you all are having a nice day!