Once upon a time...
There was a boy,
and a girl.
He lived in Dublin, Ireland, and she lived in the bay area of California (image is linked to the source. Consider it citing an image!).
They met on a popular TeenHelp site in February of 2009. They were both there for similar reasons, similar problems, and both there for somebody else. It was the similarity of their situations that bonded them together, yet for a while, they stayed within distances of the other. They responded to one another's threads, sometimes with advice, sometimes for support, but they understood, and that was enough. But it wouldn't be enough forever. They both had danced around the idea of sending off a PM or writing a VM to the other, but both were intimidated, so they resorted to reading one another's threads and sharing words on the boards - until she balls'ed up and contacted him. As perhaps with most everyone here, who contacted their SO in a similar way, you can imagine how anxious the girl felt about whether or not he would write her in response. :P
Well, he did, and their correspondance on the site turned into correspondance through MSN which led into befriending one another on Facebook. The boy and the girl, they talked for ages. Generally they talked about their problems. They related on levels no one understood and maybe they didn't even entirely understand it either, but it helped, having someone there who got it, and that was what mattered. This was their relationship for a while, sharing their independent lives, the happenings within those lives, the problems within those lives, but never going really any further than that. And yet still, the girl started to develop a liking for the boy. Within a month, she had begun to crush on him, and she was crushing hard. Of course she would never admit this! Not when he still had someone in his life, at the time, and not when he expressed the opinions that he had on LDRs.
Cue the girl moving on to date someone else, with the boy always in the very corners of her mind but trying not to pay any mind to it. Why worry about someone with whom it won't go anywhere? He could not be the reason she never met new people or dated around! The unfortunate thing, though, is due to whatever reason, they ended up falling somewhat out of contact as the relationship progressed, only reconnecting over the summer. She was still with her then-boyfriend, and she was planning a trip to London. She did not know this, but the boy harboured feelings of jealousy; he did very well at hiding them from her and remaining somewhat disconnected. Her first night in London, her then-boyfriend left to go spend time with his friends. She was exhausted and jet lagged and alone, in an apartment she'd never been in a country she'd never been the first time she'd been on a holiday alone, and she was miserable. She hopped online for company and lo and behold, the boy was there. He consoled her and was there for her and kept her company until they both retired. It meant more to her than she expressed to the boy at the time.
Flash forward and the girl is broken up with her ex, and the boy is on wishy-washy terms with his. The girl becomes increasingly jealous until she can't stand hearing about her anymore, and she tells him so. She does not tell him why. Not a month later, she finally confesses her feelings because she feels she owes him the explanation. "I have always been very fond of you," she says, and the girl is embarrassed. She feels vulnerable and stupid, especially since she's still at this point convinced that the boy felt nothing for her. To her surprise, he responded, "I have always been very fond of you too." It was not at all what she expected, but then he delivered the crushing blow that he had no intentions of taking the relationship anywhere. "For obvious reasons." The girl drops her feelings, but still feels liberated having told him.
The next few months are filled with conversations that seem to lengthen by the second, to the point neither one of them is sleeping much. The flattery is becoming more apparent, the feelings more evident, and the affection more blatant. By late January/February, they are already talking about the fact that they feel there's an unspoken commitment between them. The boy does not want to make it official, and though it somewhat bothers the girl (she'd been here before), she lives with the situation. She won't wait forever, but she would wait until he was ready. 8 April 2011, they made it official. They had their first visit - their first meeting - four months later, in August.
It was everything the girl had wished for.
They connected almost immediately. The girl had never felt so in love, and neither had the boy. They were together, and they were perfect. Early on, they expressed wanting to be together forever.
But to quote Disney's The Fox and the Hound, "Forever is a long, long time, and time has a way of changing things."
To be continued [when I am not so exhausted :P]...
There was a boy,
and a girl.
He lived in Dublin, Ireland, and she lived in the bay area of California (image is linked to the source. Consider it citing an image!).
They met on a popular TeenHelp site in February of 2009. They were both there for similar reasons, similar problems, and both there for somebody else. It was the similarity of their situations that bonded them together, yet for a while, they stayed within distances of the other. They responded to one another's threads, sometimes with advice, sometimes for support, but they understood, and that was enough. But it wouldn't be enough forever. They both had danced around the idea of sending off a PM or writing a VM to the other, but both were intimidated, so they resorted to reading one another's threads and sharing words on the boards - until she balls'ed up and contacted him. As perhaps with most everyone here, who contacted their SO in a similar way, you can imagine how anxious the girl felt about whether or not he would write her in response. :P
Well, he did, and their correspondance on the site turned into correspondance through MSN which led into befriending one another on Facebook. The boy and the girl, they talked for ages. Generally they talked about their problems. They related on levels no one understood and maybe they didn't even entirely understand it either, but it helped, having someone there who got it, and that was what mattered. This was their relationship for a while, sharing their independent lives, the happenings within those lives, the problems within those lives, but never going really any further than that. And yet still, the girl started to develop a liking for the boy. Within a month, she had begun to crush on him, and she was crushing hard. Of course she would never admit this! Not when he still had someone in his life, at the time, and not when he expressed the opinions that he had on LDRs.
Cue the girl moving on to date someone else, with the boy always in the very corners of her mind but trying not to pay any mind to it. Why worry about someone with whom it won't go anywhere? He could not be the reason she never met new people or dated around! The unfortunate thing, though, is due to whatever reason, they ended up falling somewhat out of contact as the relationship progressed, only reconnecting over the summer. She was still with her then-boyfriend, and she was planning a trip to London. She did not know this, but the boy harboured feelings of jealousy; he did very well at hiding them from her and remaining somewhat disconnected. Her first night in London, her then-boyfriend left to go spend time with his friends. She was exhausted and jet lagged and alone, in an apartment she'd never been in a country she'd never been the first time she'd been on a holiday alone, and she was miserable. She hopped online for company and lo and behold, the boy was there. He consoled her and was there for her and kept her company until they both retired. It meant more to her than she expressed to the boy at the time.
Flash forward and the girl is broken up with her ex, and the boy is on wishy-washy terms with his. The girl becomes increasingly jealous until she can't stand hearing about her anymore, and she tells him so. She does not tell him why. Not a month later, she finally confesses her feelings because she feels she owes him the explanation. "I have always been very fond of you," she says, and the girl is embarrassed. She feels vulnerable and stupid, especially since she's still at this point convinced that the boy felt nothing for her. To her surprise, he responded, "I have always been very fond of you too." It was not at all what she expected, but then he delivered the crushing blow that he had no intentions of taking the relationship anywhere. "For obvious reasons." The girl drops her feelings, but still feels liberated having told him.
The next few months are filled with conversations that seem to lengthen by the second, to the point neither one of them is sleeping much. The flattery is becoming more apparent, the feelings more evident, and the affection more blatant. By late January/February, they are already talking about the fact that they feel there's an unspoken commitment between them. The boy does not want to make it official, and though it somewhat bothers the girl (she'd been here before), she lives with the situation. She won't wait forever, but she would wait until he was ready. 8 April 2011, they made it official. They had their first visit - their first meeting - four months later, in August.
It was everything the girl had wished for.
They connected almost immediately. The girl had never felt so in love, and neither had the boy. They were together, and they were perfect. Early on, they expressed wanting to be together forever.
But to quote Disney's The Fox and the Hound, "Forever is a long, long time, and time has a way of changing things."
To be continued [when I am not so exhausted :P]...
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