He's moving here and although I should be happy...

[Captivated]

I'm beyond worried. I've seen how he is in his hometown in the UK...comfortable, knows his surroundings, loves his family. And although he tells me he'll be even happier living here in Texas, I'm worried it won't be the same. He took great care of me there...will he feel obliged to still do so when he's here? In a strange country, with no job at the start, starting a brand new life? Sounds a bit selfish on my part, I realize. But that's one of the things that made me fall in love with him...the way he takes care of me, his attentiveness...

He finds out his fate on his visa on the 17th. After that, if all goes well, he'll move here as soon as possible. And even though I'm ecstatic that we'll be closing the distance, I just hope he adjusts well to this new environment. He's been here before when he came for a visit last April. And he seemed to be comfortable - anyone who has been to Texas knows the weather isn't the best.

For those that have closed the distance, how much has really changed in your relationship? Are you still the same people as when you were in a LDR? I know new challenges face us once we're together but I just hope the spirit of our relationship stays the same...if that makes sense.

[Zephii]

For us, the base never changed. We were who we are, who we have always been. But the fact of it is, when I'm unhappy, I'm not the "good" version of myself lol, so he saw a lot more of my bad side while we were in Canada.

When we first closed the distance, we were both a bit miserable. We saw each other too much because we were unemployed, living together, and one of us always depended on the other. We didn't know how to effectivly communicate face-to-face and we didn't know how to have fun together without our computers between us. But it still worked out.

We were able to figure out what the actual problems were, isolate them and then tackle them together. It was rough, and even once our relationship was well and truly on track, I was still miserable because I'm not keen at all on his home town/country.

But who we are, and what we love about each other has remained the same. Now we're in Oz, married and have a baby on the way, and I can look back at how far we came. We grew up together.

I think it's good that you realise that he may not take to his new life as easily as he assumes - because moving and visits are so different! But don't let it get to you too much. Almost every problem can be overcome with communication and compromise.

Good luck with the visa!!