So, I've been looking around, and I think quite a few people have different definitions of CD, and I have no idea what my own definition of it is, and I'm wondering what you all think?
Right now I'm across the Atlantic for a year, with very strict program rules of no going home for visits, and it looking not likely that he can visit. So I automatically assumed, CD is when I come home.
But the thing is, we live at least 40 minutes away from one another, and when I come back I'll be going to Uni, which is about an hour away from him. The way it was before, I was in a seriously stressful position balancing him and my family--going over to his place to hang out/spend the night, coming home early enough for work/hanging out with family. I'm afraid it's going to be like that again when I come home, only balancing school and him rather than family and him. Because it really was unrealistic to expect him to come to me half as much as I came to him--he had his own place where we could have privacy, he had the longer work day, my family was always breathing down my throat, there's more to do in his city, my work hours were much more flexible. And when I'm at Uni I'll be in a dorm for at least the first semester, most likely the first year, and it'll again be a situation of him having the disgustingly long workday/the better living situation. And I've never even considered asking him to move closer to my Uni's town--he's military. If we're not CD until he's free...but then he's going to Uni as soon as he's done with the Military. I would never ever impose on his decision of Uni's, but it would break my heart if he went to one that made us LD again.
Is it CD if we're not in the same city? (Let alone the same house, like some of the people on site.)
Right now I'm across the Atlantic for a year, with very strict program rules of no going home for visits, and it looking not likely that he can visit. So I automatically assumed, CD is when I come home.
But the thing is, we live at least 40 minutes away from one another, and when I come back I'll be going to Uni, which is about an hour away from him. The way it was before, I was in a seriously stressful position balancing him and my family--going over to his place to hang out/spend the night, coming home early enough for work/hanging out with family. I'm afraid it's going to be like that again when I come home, only balancing school and him rather than family and him. Because it really was unrealistic to expect him to come to me half as much as I came to him--he had his own place where we could have privacy, he had the longer work day, my family was always breathing down my throat, there's more to do in his city, my work hours were much more flexible. And when I'm at Uni I'll be in a dorm for at least the first semester, most likely the first year, and it'll again be a situation of him having the disgustingly long workday/the better living situation. And I've never even considered asking him to move closer to my Uni's town--he's military. If we're not CD until he's free...but then he's going to Uni as soon as he's done with the Military. I would never ever impose on his decision of Uni's, but it would break my heart if he went to one that made us LD again.
Is it CD if we're not in the same city? (Let alone the same house, like some of the people on site.)
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