How to make this possible?

[Tooki]

It's a few thousand, I don't know the specific number off my head. You will need insurance for 1 year though, that is something that you will probably get asked to show evidence of.

Nonetheless I think that you should wait before you move to Australia. Yes you will probably lose eligibility for a WHV but you have two children to worry about. You really need $$$ and your SO isn't in a great situation himself.

[kteire]

You need $5000 AUD for the WHV - I'm planning on doing that after I go back to university actually.

[Dezface]

Yep, I got my answer in 2 days. Although I do believe yours will take longer because you'll have to deal with the child situation. It was just over 300 if I remember correctly. I think it went up shortly after I applied though.


I do, like Tooki, want to caution you on the job front. I have been here almost 3 months and have yet to find a job. Most places are not looking to hire someone who can only work temporarily. Luckily my SO is in a position to support us, although its far from ideal. My problem, and likely yours too, is I'm not willing to take typical backpacker jobs that would have me living elsewhere. I came here to be with my SO, not live in a hostel. So the job market is an issue.

On the other part of Tooki's post, you are required to have sufficient funds in your bank account. You can be asked for proof when you come through customs. I wasn't asked anything at all, but it could happen and they can deny you entry.

You're not required to have health insurance, but they do ask you on the app if you have it. And of course, it's a great thing to have.

I just want to add that if you are struggling to afford a visit, moving here is an even bigger leap. One way tickets are really not any cheaper than roundtrip and there are so many costs that creep up on you. Plus, you really should meet in person before you move for a year or more. Of course, none of us can decide this for you, but I hope you'll really think on it. International love is tough. And when money is involved, as it almost always is, it's even worse.

[Tooki]

Just keep in mind that there are quite a few jobs that will accept travelers (hospitality etc) but they are often close to the CBD and have uncomfortable hours so it will be nigh impossible to get those sorts of jobs if you aren't close by. These jobs are also more appealing to younger people, which you are not (and as Dez said).

I only recommend the health insurance because stuff does happen and you will get 0 assistance and be subject to ridiculous bills not unlike what you would pay in the US if you did need medical assistance.

[stacey0811]

Well, while all of this information is enlightening I am really disappointed by not only the lack of support on this forum but the down right pessimistic and off topic opinions that chime in. I was really expecting other people who are in a similar situations to be more positive about it. I can focus on all the negative aspects myself I definitely don't need any assistance in this area. I am also turned off by how many people want to answer questions I didn't ask and give advice about topics not even related to this thread. For all you people know my ex husband could be a rich CEO that has no issue taking care of his kids which allows me the freedom to focus on me and not the issues you guys keep pointing out. The point is you people have no idea what my situation is in that regard which is why I'm not asking for advice about that. It has no bearing on my LDR at all.

To those of you replying with the information I asked about, thank you so much. I really appreciate your advice and will look into all of the information and suggestions you've given. Thank you.

Also, Tooki, 29 years old is by no means considered old lol. I like that you group me into a category that is no longer considered to be in the "younger people" crowd lol I just think that's funny

[lyonsgirl]

Well, while all of this information is enlightening I am really disappointed by not only the lack of support on this forum but the down right pessimistic and off topic opinions that chime in. I was really expecting other people who are in a similar situations to be more positive about it. I can focus on all the negative aspects myself I definitely don't need any assistance in this area. I am also turned off by how many people want to answer questions I didn't ask and give advice about topics not even related to this thread. For all you people know my ex husband could be a rich CEO that has no issue taking care of his kids which allows me the freedom to focus on me and not the issues you guys keep pointing out. The point is you people have no idea what my situation is in that regard which is why I'm not asking for advice about that. It has no bearing on my LDR at all.

To those of you replying with the information I asked about, thank you so much. I really appreciate your advice and will look into all of the information and suggestions you've given. Thank you.

Also, Tooki, 29 years old is by no means considered old lol. I like that you group me into a category that is no longer considered to be in the "younger people" crowd lol I just think that's funny

I'm confused on the part I bolded. I agree, we don't know any more than you have told us. But... (although I may be wrong in my assumption of your situation here) how do your kids not have any bearing on your LDR? The only reason I could think that they don't is if they are A) adult children living on their own, supporting themselves, or B) living with their dad full time. Please don't think I'm being negative or anything, I'm just trying to understand.

[Moon]

Well, while all of this information is enlightening I am really disappointed by not only the lack of support on this forum but the down right pessimistic and off topic opinions that chime in. I was really expecting other people who are in a similar situations to be more positive about it. I can focus on all the negative aspects myself I definitely don't need any assistance in this area. I am also turned off by how many people want to answer questions I didn't ask and give advice about topics not even related to this thread. For all you people know my ex husband could be a rich CEO that has no issue taking care of his kids which allows me the freedom to focus on me and not the issues you guys keep pointing out. The point is you people have no idea what my situation is in that regard which is why I'm not asking for advice about that. It has no bearing on my LDR at all.

To those of you replying with the information I asked about, thank you so much. I really appreciate your advice and will look into all of the information and suggestions you've given. Thank you.

Also, Tooki, 29 years old is by no means considered old lol. I like that you group me into a category that is no longer considered to be in the "younger people" crowd lol I just think that's funny

What lack of support? Did you expect people to give you false information just because it would feel good? The situation is what it is, there's nothing we can do to make you richer If truth isn't support, then there's not much else that can be done, no one here is a miracle worker. You can't just show up in another country, broke, and live there, because you're in love, that's the reality of it. You got some really good info here, be grateful people took the time to give it to you, sheesh.

Also, this is an open forum, members are free to post what they want, not what you dictate.

[kteire]

I don't see how it's off topic... you asked and we offered opinions based on the information you gave - I don't see how saying 'wait for a few years' is pessimistic! I just think that's realistic. I don't think you'll find that many people on here who are in the exact same situation as you, as many of us don't have children to consider, and those that do don't often plan to move without them.
I don't think it was that much of a stretch to assume that your ex isn't a rich CEO, since you said yourself you can't afford more than bills and can't afford plane tickets... I know it's frustrating, but I still honestly think you need to focus on having enough money to get by and save up, because Australia is expensive, and no matter how you get there you're going to need a good bit of savings!

[stacey0811]

I'm confused on the part I bolded. I agree, we don't know any more than you have told us. But... (although I may be wrong in my assumption of your situation here) how do your kids not have any bearing on your LDR? The only reason I could think that they don't is if they are A) adult children living on their own, supporting themselves, or B) living with their dad full time. Please don't think I'm being negative or anything, I'm just trying to understand.

my children don't have a bearing on my LDR because they are 100% provided for. Providing for myself is a completely different matter tho as all of my money goes towards them. Also I have to share my children with their dad so it's not like they will be living with me full time in Australia. More than likely their year will be split between mine and my ex's homes as he will not be moving out of the US. So while they will still be my dependent children, they will not require any sort of residency status as they will not be working or attending school in Australia. So the fact that I have children is kind of a moot point in regards to my relationship. Also I'd like to point out that when I asked about how to afford to be with my SO, I in no way implied I wanted advice on how to properly care for my children or how to properly support them so that is why I feel, as far as what I was expecting in responses from this forum, they do not have any bearing on my LDR. I hope that answers your question

[stacey0811]

I don't see how it's off topic... you asked and we offered opinions based on the information you gave - I don't see how saying 'wait for a few years' is pessimistic! I just think that's realistic. I don't think you'll find that many people on here who are in the exact same situation as you, as many of us don't have children to consider, and those that do don't often plan to move without them.
I don't think it was that much of a stretch to assume that your ex isn't a rich CEO, since you said yourself you can't afford more than bills and can't afford plane tickets... I know it's frustrating, but I still honestly think you need to focus on having enough money to get by and save up, because Australia is expensive, and no matter how you get there you're going to need a good bit of savings!

I don't believe telling someone to wait a few years is pessimistic, I do believe telling someone that not only is what they want to happen (what they are asking for advice about) just isn't possible and that if by some miracle you do make it then you're going to have an even harder time over there is. I mean the way it was presented it was as if people are saying oh you have kids and other things that will make this difficult so it's just impossible. I don't believe that at all. Also just because my ex could be rich doesn't mean I can't be poor lol. I don't know too many ex's who still pay for their divorced spouses bills. I just don't happen to be as fortunate as he is in the job market because I have no education and I'm working on fixing that now. It's always hard to go to school and make money at the same time no matter what your situation. Also I don't want his money, I can do this on my own.

[stacey0811]

What lack of support? Did you expect people to give you false information just because it would feel good? The situation is what it is, there's nothing we can do to make you richer If truth isn't support, then there's not much else that can be done, no one here is a miracle worker. You can't just show up in another country, broke, and live there, because you're in love, that's the reality of it. You got some really good info here, be grateful people took the time to give it to you, sheesh.

Also, this is an open forum, members are free to post what they want, not what you dictate.

No I did not expect false information and I'm not asking people to make me richer. I am asking for people who have been in a similar situation or who are currently in a similar situation, what they did to get through it. I did not ask for opinions about being broke, taking care of my kids, focusing on my own life, etc. I don't expect to show up in another country broke and live there because I'm in love. If I expected that then I wouldn't be on here looking for advice from people who have been there done that.

I am grateful for what applicable advice I get here. What I'm not grateful for is people like yourself who make assumptions about information they don't have based on nothing more than a little bit of insight given to provide some perspective on the situation.

Also, since this is an open forum and I am free to post what I want I'd like to point out that if you don't have anything constructive to say about the question I asked for advice on and you don't have any actual advice on the subject of moving to australia other than to criticize what you assume my thoughts are then you can politely remove yourself from this thread as you offer absolutely no support and no truth. You are simply a troll to be avoided.

[Moon]

No I did not expect false information and I'm not asking people to make me richer. I am asking for people who have been in a similar situation or who are currently in a similar situation, what they did to get through it. I did not ask for opinions about being broke, taking care of my kids, focusing on my own life, etc. I don't expect to show up in another country broke and live there because I'm in love. If I expected that then I wouldn't be on here looking for advice from people who have been there done that.

I am grateful for what applicable advice I get here. What I'm not grateful for is people like yourself who make assumptions about information they don't have based on nothing more than a little bit of insight given to provide some perspective on the situation.

Also, since this is an open forum and I am free to post what I want I'd like to point out that if you don't have anything constructive to say about the question I asked for advice on and you don't have any actual advice on the subject of moving to australia other than to criticize what you assume my thoughts are then you can politely remove yourself from this thread as you offer absolutely no support and no truth. You are simply a troll to be avoided.

No thanks, my trollish self chooses to remain here BTW, I made no assumptions on you at all, just adding a dose of reality, which you don't seem to get, at all.

[stacey0811]

No thanks, my trollish self chooses to remain here BTW, I made no assumptions on you at all, just adding a dose of reality, which you don't seem to get, at all.

Oh I'm sorry, I didn't realize I posted my question in the reality check forum. I thought this was the forum to get advice on trying to relocate to be with your SO. My mistake.

[Moon]

Oh I'm sorry, I didn't realize I posted my question in the reality check forum. I thought this was the forum to get advice on trying to relocate to be with your SO. My mistake.

Apology accepted

[lucybelle]

You are simply a troll to be avoided.

Moon is a very well respected member of this site. She offers sound advice to many. I kindly request you to back off the members here, as no one has done that to you.

If you didn't want people commenting on your personal life you probably shouldn't have written about it. You could have very simply asked "how do you get a working visa to Australia?" and done. Instead, you decided to talk about divorce, a homeless shelter, you and your SO's financial situation and your two children. It was your choice to bring it up, not ours.