Should I let him choose to come live here?

[aojeda50]

My SO and I have spoken about closing the distance before. We started off talking about where we see ourselves in 5-10 years. I knew I wanted to have a stable job in the career i'm going for, he said that same thing. And of course, both of us want to be together, the question was...where? He told me that it didn't matter for him, that he would be more that willing to come to the US and live here with me to be closer to my family if it was that important. I felt bad to be honest. I want to be fair and give what he wants a chance. I want him to be able to have a choice. I would be willing to live in Italy with him if it came down to that point, or maybe even a different country for the both of us. He is finishing up his masters in business and economics. He has one year left. I'm worried whether or not he will be able to find a good job here in the US. I just don't want him to regret coming here. Then again, who knows what will happen.

[Tooki]

If I remember correctly, you haven't met your SO yet yes?

I think that you should focus on meeting your SO before you think about closing the distance .

[aojeda50]

Lol no I haven't. I know I should just focus on that first.

[ThePiedPiper]

If I remember correctly, you haven't met your SO yet yes?

I think that you should focus on meeting your SO before you think about closing the distance .

This. I think you both need to visit each other's respective countries and spend a significant amount of time seeing what it's like. Sometimes things change when you spend a significant time in one place, because it might be only a vacation, but there's still an element of realism to it and sometimes can tell you whether or not you could live there.

[Tooki]

This. I think you both need to visit each other's respective countries and spend a significant amount of time seeing what it's like. Sometimes things change when you spend a significant time in one place, because it might be only a vacation, but there's still an element of realism to it and sometimes can tell you whether or not you could live there.

This.

You will learn quite quickly whether or not you could live in your SO's country.