I"m ready to close the distance, but parents won't let me go or even listen to me.

[southern bow]

I have applied for college where my boyfriend lives, his family is so sweet and they care about me, but my parents won't even listen to me when I say i want to move. The school thats there has my major and i could get done with school in a shorter time, because the school i'm currently attending does not have my major. Every time i try to speak with my parents about this issue they start drama and call me inappropriate names, and mistreats me. I'm trying to gain the courage to leave. Also my parents are controlling and make it super uncomfortable for me to express how i really feel. Yes i want to close the distance with my boyfriend but i also love what the program offers at the school where he lives.

[TaraMarie]

What school are you looking to go to? Who is paying for it?

[AussieAmericanGirl66]

What is the issue? Are your parents paying for your education? Are you still living with them? If so, then they have a right to some say over it. But if you are working, on your own, paying for your education, they don't have a right to control you. You are over 18, so you are of age to make your own decisions.

Has he visited you, and have your parents had an opportunity to meet him? That might make a difference, too.

It sounds like you have a good opportunity for your education plans, so it seems that would be a good talking point with your parents, rather than causing a lot of trouble. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders, and have thought it out pretty good. But, where would you stay if you move there? Will you be living with his parents, or does he have his own place? Will you be able to work, find a job there, or will he be supporting you? Those are important issues too.

[Mims27]

I agree with the two people above me. If they are the ones supporting you financially and are paying for your education then I hate to say it but it's up to them to decide. Otherwise, if you are taking care of all that, then you are old enough to decide what you want to do.

[southern bow]

Financial aid is paying for my education, and i plan to get a job right when i get there. His mother offered that i could stay with them for no charge, and his sister said the same thing. Also my parents have met him and i brought him over for dinner every night, and they flat out ignored him, he tried starting and keeping up conversation with my parents but they just rolled their eyes and said nothing. Also my dad refused to talk to him because we are an interacial couple because my boyfriend is caucasin, and I'm african american.

[AussieAmericanGirl66]

Financial aid is paying for my education, and i plan to get a job right when i get there. His mother offered that i could stay with them for no charge, and his sister said the same thing. Also my parents have met him and i brought him over for dinner every night, and they flat out ignored him, he tried starting and keeping up conversation with my parents but they just rolled their eyes and said nothing. Also my dad refused to talk to him because we are an interacial couple because my boyfriend is caucasin, and I'm african american.

There's the problem right there. It's a big one, but it's THEIR issue, not yours. Since his family has graciously accepted you, and offered to help you, AND you are getting your ducks in a row, I'd say go for it! Why should you be held back, or be forced to give up your dreams, or the love of your life, because they are prejudiced, and don't even try to get to know him, because of the blinders over their eyes, and the walls around their hearts? It really seems like that is what they are doing...trying to make you choose between them and him. Make your OWN choice. It's your life, not theirs.

[southern bow]

Thankyou so much for the advice. your advice has brought me a lot of comfort and confidence.

[TaraMarie]

My response came across as short, which I didn't mean. I was actually in a hurry. I asked what school because I live in ga. And I asked who was paying because I assumed if they were paying then they would have something to say. If they aren't, then only you have so etching to say. Interracial will always be difficult, because there are so many closed minded people in this world who just need to mind their own damn business......sorry, short rant....anyway... I SAY go for it! It will be a great experience for you! Enjoy every second!

[southern bow]

thanx and the schools in columbus,ga

[differentcountries]

Go for it

[xanzbarr]

What they said! Go for it!

[nottheprincesspeach]

Go for it! But make sure you have a back up plan (like a nest egg of money) in case things go wrong or don't work out. I am a plan for the worst, hope for the best kind of person.

[Heavenly_Love12]

I agree with those who are telling you to go for it! School is a great opportunity and as long as you can afford to go to an out of state school, you shouldn't let your parents hold you back especially if they don't like your boyfriend only because he's Caucasian. I hope they will come around and give him a chance. My SO and I are different races and honestly none of our families care, which is the way it should be.

[southern bow]

Thanx for the great advice everyone!

[bethyylovee]

Adding to the support, I also say go for it! If they aren't paying your way, it's not their choice! I found it weird when I turned 18 that I really could make my own choices, and in a way that brought me personal happiness. Once I got over my fears, though, I blossomed so much! You've got to know that their choices to ignore him, and not support you, are theirs alone. You need not to worry about their actions.

Also, as someone has already stated, make sure that you have a plan B! Try not to leave on bad terms with your parents, just in case. But do what YOU need to do!