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    Moving both in another country

    When the time for closing the distance comes, moving to your SO's country could be a challenge, so.. Why do not complicate things more?

    What if both want to move to another country at all? Did anyone do this?
    Both have to do the Visa stuff, but will the times and procedures be the same? And what if one Visa is rejected and the other is accepted?

    I guess this would be easier if the country was in the same continent of one person - or both if they live in the same continent, wouldn't it?

    #2
    See that would be too many ifs for me to actually go through with it. The most difficult one to solve would be, what if my visa goes through, but his doesn't? I would not want to move somewhere he couldn't move to.
    My family wants us to move together to England so we are closer to Austria, but the whole process of getting into a country that you are not a resident of, is difficult and too much of a gamble for me to even consider.

    Is it possible? I am sure it is, but it is probably a lot more expensive as both need visas and visas cost a LOT of money.
    Last edited by snow; June 26, 2014, 08:42 PM.

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      #3
      I'm sure it happens, though as you say, it may be more complicated. It depends on the country, the citizenship of the people, etc. EU citizens might have an easier time doing that in other EU countries.

      Americans and Canadians would probably have a difficult time, as would people trying to come to America.

      In my view, if I were to try to do this as an American with my Kiwi partner, the most complicated thing would be work and living situation. If it's just one person moving to the other person's country, one person likely already has a job, and/or apartment situation lined up. If we're both moving to another country, depending on the visa and immigration laws, that's now two jobs to find (which is unlikely to happen at the same time, and not even necessarily in the same city or general area of a country) in addition to accommodation. What if I get a job that will sponsor a visa, then get a work visa, find an apartment, and then after a year of looking for a job, my partner finally gets one and can get a sponsored work visa.. but the job offer is for a city 5 hours away?

      In my view, the only way we'd both move countries is to live somewhere together, so one person would need to find a job and the other would need a job in close enough proximity to where we could live together. Not impossible, but more challenging.

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        #4
        It would be a lot more challenging most likely, like the others said, mostly because it would generally mean having to afford more visas and other costs. Although as mentioned, it might be doable if you are both members of a EU country and choose to live together in another EU country. Personally I know for my position with my boy, it would add far more complication and expense and we already will have a lot. It should be possible.. but you probably should make a lot of money and have a huge amount of savings especially if you both will need to look for a job. Good luck if you try though

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          #5
          Outside of EU the only likely route I'd see would be if both applied and were accepted to the same university or similar and got approved for visas to study in that country. Of course you can't study forever, so there are complications there as well....

          Luckily we're both within the EU, so our situation is not as complicated
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            #6
            The whole visa application/process thing is scary enough with just one of us applying for it. I can't imagine both of us having to go through it. Like snow said, what if one gets approved and the other doesn't?

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              #7
              To me it sounds too risky. Like the others said, one could risk to be rejected. We could probably both get into an EU country, at least I could apply for a job too, but there is too much hassle and we would both be almost without a social network. It is hard enough to manouver the idea of one of us moving
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                #8
                We definitely plan to move to a third country some time in our lives. We'd love to go to Europe somewhere. The way we'd do it is find a job for my SO, then once we get there I'll look for a job, too. I'm a teacher with native English, there are tons of international schools.

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                  #9
                  Of course it is doable if it's something you'd both want to do. I have friends who now both live and work in New Zealand, one is from South Africa and the other Ireland, it would probably help if you had evidence of a permanent tie together (i.e. marriage or civil partnership).

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                    #10
                    I would definitely do that if my SO got a job in another EU, but it would have to be a EU country or the paperwork just wouldn't be worth it and there would be a whole lot less security to our lives (as a spouse of a EU citizen I could move with him anywhere)

                    In fact, it would almost be a desirable option since my employment chances would be higher in basically any country other than Finland
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                      #11
                      I've actually been wondering about this. My s/o and I would ideally close the distance by having me go to him in the UK; however, he would like to end up in Canada within the next two years (which has the potential to make my move a little easier as far as moving stuff goes). He mentioned possibly being able to get a Canadian passport for reasons that currently escape me, but it makes me wonder about how I'd get into the country.
                      We'll worry about it if we ever have to cross that bridge, of course, but I still think about it.

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                        #12
                        Me and my SO have been currently hoping to close the distance in UK. We really like the idea of being able to live in a country that speaks primary English and is part of the EU. For us it will actually be easier for me to get a residence card in UK once we marry via the freedom of Mobility Act for EU, all he has to do a get a job. It does not require the 12 month contract near impossible to get in NL these days so we are really hoping to end up in Belfast. At some point later we might move over to NL or USA but the first few years, UK is our goal at this time.
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                          #13
                          Originally posted by Harlequin View Post
                          I've actually been wondering about this. My s/o and I would ideally close the distance by having me go to him in the UK; however, he would like to end up in Canada within the next two years (which has the potential to make my move a little easier as far as moving stuff goes). He mentioned possibly being able to get a Canadian passport for reasons that currently escape me, but it makes me wonder about how I'd get into the country.
                          We'll worry about it if we ever have to cross that bridge, of course, but I still think about it.
                          Canada does not just give out passports. Healthcare, come on down! Passports? Nah.

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                            #14
                            Originally posted by digitalfever View Post
                            Healthcare, come on down!
                            How about dental work? Can I come on down (or up, rather) for that? Is it cheaper? :P

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