How to marry my Wale quicker?

[Marmalade]

I know how to go about getting a visa and I've studied the visas almost every night since he proposed, but I just feel like the stress of dealing with it will make me sick. I'm recovering from anorexia and am a chronic worrier (GAD), so i want to avoid a stressor that would cause a relapse.literally when I stress or am angry my heart aches with pain and I shake until I can calm myself down. I've read about people who have gotten married on vacation "unplanned" or on a wim and was wondering if anyone here has done that. From what I understand a foreign national can marry a us citizen while on a visitors visa as long as it wasn't the intent of the visit. I'm not one for doing anything illegal, but I have thought it'd be nice to just skip to court one day and apply for a licence. I have no idea what to do and I don't think i can take the stress of being apart after he meets my family and asks for my parents blessings. I don't care about a fancy wedding. I just care about finally being together without worrying about the other leaving. I just want to know what would make this whole process less stressful. Any ideas or advice would be nice.

[Redheart14]

No idea sorry! I know there are lots of members here who know all about visa applications. Hopefully they can help you.

[Marmalade]

I hope so. I just have no idea what to do without getting myself worked up and sick.

[snow_girl]

I get that being away sucks, but I feel like rushing the marriage in fear of relapsing is not really a good idea? Maybe you didn't mean it that way but you said it and I think more bad could come from a marriage that is based around relieving stress. Even if you get married it is not an easy process ahead. You can't just jump the pond and live happily ever after. There is a ton of paper work and waiting. Try working on finding ways to manage your stress now rather then hope for a quick fix with marriage.

[silvermoonfairy3]

I know this isn't what you want to hear, but the visa process will just be stressful.

Unfortunately you guys can't just run off and get married and avoid the stress.. he'll still need a visa (just a spouse one instead) to live here, or you'd need one for there.

Additionally both countries have income requirements, so you need to be able to show you can sponsor a spouse.

If it's likely to make you sick, I suggest that you put off the whole idea of marriage and visas for awhile and focus on your health, until you're able to deal with the stressful process without putting your physical well-being in jeopardy.

Good luck!

[Marmalade]

I get that being away sucks, but I feel like rushing the marriage in fear of relapsing is not really a good idea? Maybe you didn't mean it that way but you said it and I think more bad could come from a marriage that is based around relieving stress. Even if you get married it is not an easy process ahead. You can't just jump the pond and live happily ever after. There is a ton of paper work and waiting. Try working on finding ways to manage your stress now rather then hope for a quick fix with marriage.

I'm very much aware and that is not what I meant at all. We are getting married in a year or whenever we get everything sorted. Or we will get married this summer while on vacation in another country together. Like I said I've studied the process and know it isn't easy.

[Marmalade]

I know this isn't what you want to hear, but the visa process will just be stressful.

Unfortunately you guys can't just run off and get married and avoid the stress.. he'll still need a visa (just a spouse one instead) to live here, or you'd need one for there.

Additionally both countries have income requirements, so you need to be able to show you can sponsor a spouse.

If it's likely to make you sick, I suggest that you put off the whole idea of marriage and visas for awhile and focus on your health, until you're able to deal with the stressful process without putting your physical well-being in jeopardy.

Good luck!

Considering I know my situation and his we will be fine with the financial requirement. Yes I know he will need a spouse visa and I know a spouse visa is cheaper and it takes longer to get. And putting it off will only cost more with the need to travel every few months to see one another and will more than likely cause a panic attack in an airport and make me sick. I know I can take dealing with the 9 months wait if that means I will see him and won't be separated again.

[Marmalade]

I'm not looking for judgement or motherly advice. I just want advice on the process. My health is very much well at the moment and has been for a year. Only one panic attack in 6 months and that's when I was flying for the first time internationally. I could care less about time and money. I work hard; he works even harder. If the end results means together without separation then once I put my mind to it it will be conquered. It's worth it all to me and I'm sorry if my age causes you to doubt me and my relationship.

[snow_girl]

If your health isn't an issue, you shouldn't have made it such a big part of your initial post. When it comes down to it, you say you know the process, then you know that is isn't just an easy lets go down to the court house and off we go. I'm not really sure what you are asking.

[snow]

The problem with your plan is that you have no proof that you didn't intend to do so, because you are already engaged - if you got married on a whim, no one is going to believe you did it just because you suddenly felt like it. USCIS is going to assume you knew what you were getting yourself into and you might get denied. When it comes to things like this, visajourney has a lot of stories you can read up on.

Other than that - the fiance visa process has not been very stressful for me. All I had to do was: get visa pictures done (~10 min), fill out forms (~15-20 minutes per form) and prepare the proof (which was printing out pictures, write a short story, list all visits, copy my plane tickets, etc). As the petitioner you will have to prove that you earn enough money to care for you both (~22k a year I think) - which takes a written letter from your employer, pay stubs, tax returns and bank statements.

We are at the last step and the worst part was the waiting, but that wasn't as much stressful as it was annoying. You can PM me if you want to talk about it.

[Marmalade]

Hun, it was a big issue. The only reason I included it is because I am entitled to still be afraid of a relapse. I know the process and I know it isn't easy, but I know that some really have as you said skipped down to the court house. They go to immigration and they ask questions then they fill out forms for a green card if immigration does believe their answers. I just want to know if anyone here has ever done it or if anyone has any advice DIRECTLY relating to the process. Such as what not to do and what to bring. Yes, I know the process, but advice about it is still welcomed.

[Marmalade]

The problem with your plan is that you have no proof that you didn't intend to do so, because you are already engaged - if you got married on a whim, no one is going to believe you did it just because you suddenly felt like it. USCIS is going to assume you knew what you were getting yourself into and you might get denied. When it comes to things like this, visajourney has a lot of stories you can read up on.

Other than that - the fiance visa process has not been very stressful for me. All I had to do was: get visa pictures done (~10 min), fill out forms (~15-20 minutes per form) and prepare the proof (which was printing out pictures, write a short story, list all visits, copy my plane tickets, etc). As the petitioner you will have to prove that you earn enough money to care for you both (~22k a year I think) - which takes a written letter from your employer, pay stubs, tax returns and bank statements.

We are at the last step and the worst part was the waiting, but that wasn't as much stressful as it was annoying. You can PM me if you want to talk about it.

We haven't told anyone that isnt on here about it yet. Thank you and congrats. He is looking at coming here so I believe for single household it is 11k in the US.