Today makes a year since I asked her to be my girlfriend. We have a 3 stage plan in place.
1. See each other more... visits during the week.
2. Prep both of our houses for sale.
3. Sell our houses. Move in together in one house.
It's a long term plan. Nothing is going to happen over night. It may take years. Frankly, the idea of going back and forth more than we are kind of exhausts me even thinking about it. However, she's spent Wednesday and Thursday nights at my house this week, and managed to make it to work each day.
I've spent one week night at her house last week, and a couple of weeks before that I spent a week night at her house. Sometimes I wonder if there's something more she wants to learn about me or if she really wants to spend more time with me. I suppose I question her motives for all of this back and forth.
Don't get me wrong, I really enjoy spending time with her. I don't have the best track record of putting effort into a relationship for the long term, though.
So, we're on step one of the plan, and are both supposed to be working on preparation for the sale of both houses. I have equity in mine and can let mine go as is. My preparation will be a mental/emotional preparation which will be letting go. My dad built the house, after all. He was a carpenter - he built it. Part of my relationship process and my own personal growth is letting go of this house. I've got to move forward. Sure, there aresome many repairs that need to be made, but I really could live with letting it go as is. I have so much STUFF! I will need to work on clearing out my things. I have a lot of things. So I'll be going through those things and getting rid of things I don't need.
Amazing how long I've held onto things and never really let go so that I could really pursue a relationship where both parties are equals. I suppose it is time. It feels good to have a plan in place.
1. See each other more... visits during the week.
2. Prep both of our houses for sale.
3. Sell our houses. Move in together in one house.
It's a long term plan. Nothing is going to happen over night. It may take years. Frankly, the idea of going back and forth more than we are kind of exhausts me even thinking about it. However, she's spent Wednesday and Thursday nights at my house this week, and managed to make it to work each day.
I've spent one week night at her house last week, and a couple of weeks before that I spent a week night at her house. Sometimes I wonder if there's something more she wants to learn about me or if she really wants to spend more time with me. I suppose I question her motives for all of this back and forth.
Don't get me wrong, I really enjoy spending time with her. I don't have the best track record of putting effort into a relationship for the long term, though.
So, we're on step one of the plan, and are both supposed to be working on preparation for the sale of both houses. I have equity in mine and can let mine go as is. My preparation will be a mental/emotional preparation which will be letting go. My dad built the house, after all. He was a carpenter - he built it. Part of my relationship process and my own personal growth is letting go of this house. I've got to move forward. Sure, there are
Amazing how long I've held onto things and never really let go so that I could really pursue a relationship where both parties are equals. I suppose it is time. It feels good to have a plan in place.
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