Is it too soon to be thinking of this?

[Spam]

My bf and I have known each other for 2 years and have been dating about 10 months long distance. I know it's really soon but, we've been talking about marriage and are planning to get engaged in about 1.5 years. Is it crazy to be talking about this? It makes so much sense to me but I want to make sure we are ready.

[Ella85]

It's not what other people think. It's about what is right for you.

[sasad]

You two need to decide of you are ready for that responsibility. Some are ready at 18 or 19, some are not ever ready.
My SO and I got together almost a year ago. We are getting married next year. We know what we feel, are more then secure with our jobs, and respect each other.
Both of you talk and decide what you are both ready for : )

[Spam]

Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. Thank you so much.

[Spam]

yeah, I tend to let other people's opinion cloud my judgment

[MissingMyDutchLove]

You say that you're planning to get engaged in a year and a half. So while you're thinking about this stuff, it doesn't mean that in exactly 1.5 years to the day you two will be engaged. All I have to say is that there is nothing wrong with you thinking about these things as long as you are open to the possibility of your plan not working out for whatever reason. It may be earlier or later than that, but don't stress now about something that's so far ahead in the future.

[differentcountries]

I am just confused by the idea of "planning to get engaged". Because that is like "planning to have a plan".... Do you mean that someone will officially propose and there will be a ring? Because wanting to get married in the future, which you are clearly into, is what engagement is all about... My obsession with wording aside;

SO and I started to talk about marriage very early on. Like right away. It is has been our plan the whole time we have dated to eventually get married/close the distance. Obviously, getting to know each other better means we are considering these questions with more weight, even if we sensed something about each other right away.

Like the others said; you are the ones making the decitions. If you marry in 2 years or more, you will have had plenty time to get to know each other well, too

As for internationally closing the distance, that relates to money, visas, who will move and how, which are issues that are not neccesarily seperat from wanting to get married. But you will have plenty of time to figure that out, good luck on the talks

[sasad]

I am just confused by the idea of "planning to get engaged". Because that is like "planning to have a plan".... Do you mean that someone will officially propose and there will be a ring? Because wanting to get married in the future, which you are clearly into, is what engagement is all about... My obsession with wording aside;

Planning to become engaged.. That makes perfect sense... Could mean that is when they will be financially ready to get rings or done with school or until they get meetings with family done. Adam and I are planning to get engaged in August/September after my child custody papers are straight... Would be silly to do it now until all the legalities are taken care of.... hope that makes it understandable DC.

[ChloChlo]

I don't think it's too soon to think of. Like others have said, just because it's an idea you both like doesn't mean it will happen right away. I think lots of people date with the express intention of marrying, and it's healthy to discuss it.