He's coming back home here. Eeek!

[Katy_G]

Hello everyone!

So this is a weird situation. My partner has been working away from home for 2 years. At that time we were 25 years old, just friends and with no clue what to do with ourselves.

Fast forward to present day, we're a couple, we're 27 years old. I'm hurdling my licensure exam to be a physician while he's readying to go back home here in our city, just so he can head back to school and get a teacher's certificate.

We both know this is going to be crazy for both of us: apart from him settling back here and me getting myself together after years and years of being in school, there's dealing with family and friends on both sides. It does help that everyone has been supportive so far. However I do worry how our communication and habits will change once we're living only a few minutes away from each other. We've had too many friends who've gotten together and broken up without dealing with distance. And I don't want us to join that number!

Help?

[Elizabeth123]

Welcome to LFAD!
That's wonderful that you'll be CD soon
Remember it will be a change and definitely communicate with your SO.
Yes, many things will change but if you both support each other your relationship will grow stronger as you go through these changes. Best wishes to you both!

[sasad]

Yes.. Just what Elizabeth123 said.. Communicate!
No one can ever predict the future, but just because you are CD, doesn't mean you need to stop talking about where you want to be and how you feel etc. : )

[Katy_G]

Thanks!

Any tips for dealing with meeting the parents? His mom is overseas but I am in touch with her online. His father is in town, haven't met him yet.

He hasn't met my parents yet but they sure do know about him!

[differentcountries]

Well, I have only met his mum, his father doesn't live any more. I'd say, be fresh and awake, bring a gift, let them rule the show, especially if you meet up at their house.

It is perhaps different with us because we can only communicate in the little Turkish I know, but I try to win her in other ways. Like, I made cakes and dessertes for the family, and SO and I have bought alcohol and food gifts which I know they appreciate because they are on a budget. Yes, and try to get into whatever humour they have. I watch tv with them, whatever show they like (we all enjoy the Guldur Guldur humour show, but I have also watched teary Turkish soap operas and driving tractors as a competion sport. Anything to get an insight in what they are into). His family still think I am a foregin whimp who doesn't understand the rules, but at least a reasonable nice wimp with an ok sense of humour

[Katy_G]

Update:

So things have gotten interesting, what with his older sister and one of his longtime friends making plans for a ladies' day out at a big book fair next September---and they have asked me along. Said friend was initially wary about meeting me (she was worried we wouldn't get along) but now she's broken the ice. I am excited and terrified for this.