"Shortening" the distance
Hello everybody!
Not sure this is the best place where to post this, because it's not exactly about closing the distance between my SO and me but instead "shortening" it.
Said that, I really hope it won't make any problem to anyone and I'm just going to jump right into the question
I have been studying Russian for about two years now but my interest for both the country and language has been growing since a very long time and that's basically how I met my boyfriend actually - he is not from Russia but he's now living there due to his job and we've been planning to meet ever since things started to get serious but it's always either too expensive for him (or me) or just very hard for various reasons.
Now, I'm normally one to say "meet them before going to their country for a long time" and I think I've actually said something on that line to one or two people in the forum too; what keeps me wondering is that I'm planning to live in Russia anyway but I wasn't exactly planning to do it in the near future. However, being able to see my SO often really is pushing me foward and even if we wouldn't live in the same city (I recieved some offers to work as an Au Pair in Moscow, 300 miles from where he lives, which is way better than the 1.673 miles currently between us). What holds me back a little is not really having to deal with a new culture and being on my own, because I have lived in England for one year when I was 17, but instead being so far from home in a country where the language barrier is pretty obvious and scary. Also, I'm not really aware of how the bureaucratic situation between Europe and Russia works, hence I'd really appreciate if someone who has been there could give me some advices on that matter
Also, what do you guys think? Am I doing the right thing trying to get closer to him or shall I wait a bit longer until we have at least a first meeting?
What scares me the most, is that if I don't go there we might never really get the chance to meet in any other way...
Hope you all have a lovely day,
WildFirefly xx
Not sure this is the best place where to post this, because it's not exactly about closing the distance between my SO and me but instead "shortening" it.
Said that, I really hope it won't make any problem to anyone and I'm just going to jump right into the question
I have been studying Russian for about two years now but my interest for both the country and language has been growing since a very long time and that's basically how I met my boyfriend actually - he is not from Russia but he's now living there due to his job and we've been planning to meet ever since things started to get serious but it's always either too expensive for him (or me) or just very hard for various reasons.
Now, I'm normally one to say "meet them before going to their country for a long time" and I think I've actually said something on that line to one or two people in the forum too; what keeps me wondering is that I'm planning to live in Russia anyway but I wasn't exactly planning to do it in the near future. However, being able to see my SO often really is pushing me foward and even if we wouldn't live in the same city (I recieved some offers to work as an Au Pair in Moscow, 300 miles from where he lives, which is way better than the 1.673 miles currently between us). What holds me back a little is not really having to deal with a new culture and being on my own, because I have lived in England for one year when I was 17, but instead being so far from home in a country where the language barrier is pretty obvious and scary. Also, I'm not really aware of how the bureaucratic situation between Europe and Russia works, hence I'd really appreciate if someone who has been there could give me some advices on that matter
Also, what do you guys think? Am I doing the right thing trying to get closer to him or shall I wait a bit longer until we have at least a first meeting?
What scares me the most, is that if I don't go there we might never really get the chance to meet in any other way...
Hope you all have a lovely day,
WildFirefly xx
You can get to know each other without pressure, because you're going for your own sake first, only secondly for him. (my first meeting with my SO, I went on holiday and to visit friends and only intended to have one date with him, we ended up having three, but I went to Tokyo for other reasons than meeting him, even though I of course do not regret it!). You're not exactly moving in with him or anything, so why not. And I think it's a nice challenge going to another country if you've studied the language already. I did exchange in Japan after two years of learning the language. It was difficult at first, but if you're forced to speak, you learn so much faster! And if you're living with a family for au pair, I believe you also learn a lot more about the culture, because you're with natives in their country! I would recommend everyone to make an experience like this, because it's awesome!
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