My boyfriend and I have been in our relationship for 18 months now. I live in Bristol and he lives in Cleethorpes, so not too far away really. He has young children which is why I am moving to him instead of the other way around.
As we draw nearer to the move, I am feeling panicky and anxious about all the things I'm going to be leaving behind. I have lived in Bristol my whole life, I have a job here, friends and family. I'm close with my parents, and with my 5 year old niece. I'm worried I'll ruin my relationship with her when I move, and thinking about telling her I'm not going to see her every thursday as I do now makes me cry.
I'm visiting in a couple of weeks to house hunt and job hunt. The closer I get to the visit and the move, the more I'm freaking out! I'm pulling back from him and don't want to talk to him at all. I feel he doesn't understand as he sees it from the point of view that he's been waiting this long for me to move and for us to be together properly, and thinks that my freak outs mean I'm not going to move. That doesn't give me much faith that it's going to go smoothly.
Also, I've planned a few visits back to Bristol already for certain things, and he's not responded too well. I originally wasn't going to move until September because I've got things happening in Bristol that I want/need to be here for. But I've compromised and brought the move day forward, but he says I need to be focusing on living up there, not planning to come back and forth. I'm very independent, and feel like I'm going to lose a lot of that by moving up to him. I really want to make a go of things, but need to find a way of keeping some normality for me as well. I don't know how to communicate how I feel without making him feel insecure and anxious.
As we draw nearer to the move, I am feeling panicky and anxious about all the things I'm going to be leaving behind. I have lived in Bristol my whole life, I have a job here, friends and family. I'm close with my parents, and with my 5 year old niece. I'm worried I'll ruin my relationship with her when I move, and thinking about telling her I'm not going to see her every thursday as I do now makes me cry.
I'm visiting in a couple of weeks to house hunt and job hunt. The closer I get to the visit and the move, the more I'm freaking out! I'm pulling back from him and don't want to talk to him at all. I feel he doesn't understand as he sees it from the point of view that he's been waiting this long for me to move and for us to be together properly, and thinks that my freak outs mean I'm not going to move. That doesn't give me much faith that it's going to go smoothly.
Also, I've planned a few visits back to Bristol already for certain things, and he's not responded too well. I originally wasn't going to move until September because I've got things happening in Bristol that I want/need to be here for. But I've compromised and brought the move day forward, but he says I need to be focusing on living up there, not planning to come back and forth. I'm very independent, and feel like I'm going to lose a lot of that by moving up to him. I really want to make a go of things, but need to find a way of keeping some normality for me as well. I don't know how to communicate how I feel without making him feel insecure and anxious.
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