Family's reaction when hearing you'd be moving away

[elina]

@ Darth_Taco: Wow.. well isn't that quite something My parent's/family wouldn't be moving with me, of that I'm sure x) Wouldn't really even want them to Just hope they'll be understanding and supportive.. that's all I'd need.

[Yei&Jon]

Haha! If only that'd happen with me. My parents are kinda in denial of the whole situation and it's aggravating sometimes because whenever I talk with my mom about moving (which is a lot) she'd be like "Yeah, right", in that snarky tone that I hate. My dad isn't thrilled about it either and won't really talk to me about my relationship let alone me moving out of this island. Also, they still haven't met Jon so it's harder for them to fully trust my relationship with a person that's like a ghost to them.

Jon's parents on the other hand, are very supportive and are more than willing to take me in while I get up on my own feet. They even mentioned the idea of my parents coming with me but I know they wouldn't because of one important reason and that's the language barrier. My parents speak zilch of english and it'd be very hard for them.

But, basically, the only reason we're still LD is 'cause of my parents and my inability to stand up for myself because I respect them too much. -_-

[faith5x5nomore]

My mom pretty much cries everytime I talk about it, My sister yelled at me saying I am foolish and won't continue our buisness without me... My best friend said she won't talk to me anymore... Surprisingly my one brother is very supportive and has been helping me out, along with my ex-husband of all people. He has the most to loose when I move away because our kids will be moving with me but he told me he wants me to be happy and believes this is a chance to better my life. So it's pretty much split down the middle when is comes to my family supporting my decision.

[elina]

My mom pretty much cries everytime I talk about it, My sister yelled at me saying I am foolish and won't continue our buisness without me... My best friend said she won't talk to me anymore... Surprisingly my one brother is very supportive and has been helping me out, along with my ex-husband of all people. He has the most to loose when I move away because our kids will be moving with me but he told me he wants me to be happy and believes this is a chance to better my life. So it's pretty much split down the middle when is comes to my family supporting my decision.

Woah, that's harsh :/ Looks like some people just can't understand I'm glad at least a few people close to you are supportive, your ex-husband in particular, he sounds really nice and understanding I hope the others will eventually realise why you're moving and accept your decision!

[blankita719]

My family is dead set against me moving away. Never mind the fact that I am 32 years old and can make my own decisions It is a difficult conversation to have with them because they are so unhappy with the thought of me leaving here, and we haven't even made a final decision as to where we will end up yet. I may be spending the summer up north with him, and even the thought of that has them in a sheer panic. My mother started getting upset because she thinks this is my subtle way of slowly moving far away from them. I am really close to my family though and we currently live all within 5 minutes of each other, so it really would be a shock to all of our systems to have me leave. My SO offered a compromise of finding a neutral state somewhere in the middle, but even that makes my family unhappy because they think I'm compromising everything. It's frustrating because I have my very valid reasons for wanting to stay here, but I may have to give in and seriously have this talk with them one day and tell them that I am leaving.

[sabby64]

Wow, looking over some of these makes me really glad that me and my SO both live in the same city and are just separated by school. His house back home is only a few blocks from me SO in reality if one of our families had a problem with it we could both just stay in Yellowknife.

I left home the minute I turned 18 and broke those ties to my family as early as I could in order to gain a little more respect from them by showing them I could live on my own, and so it wouldn't be a problem if I wanted to move somewhere else. They know I hate Yellowknife anyways, they know I'm planning on moving the minute I get out of school.

Brandon says it shouldn't be a problem with his family, but he's not so sure. So I guess we'll see.

[Andy]

It is gonna be hard for either of you, whoever moves. But at least this way you'll still be able to talk to people over here while Sam can master his Finnish in time for going to Finland

I wouldn't give up on getting him to Finland yet though, me and Tanja haven't and I still think that's our plan for next summer in all likeliness.

I know we've hardly had any straight answers from all the people we've spoke to but I don't think they'd make it hard for EU citizens with qualifications under their belt to move there... that's certainly the impression we got from the woman we spoke to and I'm listening to her

[paulawriteslove]

My family all lives extremely close to me. For example, my cousins live across the street and my grandpa lives 3 blocks away. My whole family (both sides) live 1 hour away max! But Ryan on the other hand, his family is all around the United States. We're not sure who is going to have to end up moving but I have mustered up the courage to tell my mom that I might have to move to Texas one day. It's hard because me and her are best friends! But she is a little upset that her daughter might be moving one day. She said that she would do whatever it takes to get Ryan up here I hope that works out! haha. But my family is accepting that I might have to leave one day.

[MissShortie]

I once asked my mom about what could Clay and I do about the distance and she was all for Clay moving here and was hinting around about how she wouldn't want me to move there saying how she wouldn't move away from family and the only reason she did once she was married and had kids was because we were her family...
She also said that if it was me moving there that would mean I would be living with him and that wouldn't be ok with her and my dad (well she said it in so many words but that's what she meant) I told her that isn't true I could move into an apartment so it was left with her saying we could look into apartments and see what we could find...

I did my own looking around and showed her one apartment I liked and she looked it over and said it sounded nice I would just have to find out if it's a good place to live in and that was it... I know she doesn't want me to move but I know she won't stop me because it is my life...

[NikkiP]

I left my family and all of that three years ago and got the heck out... so, I feel a bit selfish that it's ended up best for my SO to move here to be with me leaving his family and friends behind. From what I can gather though, his family is really excited, and supportive of the move.

Wow. The move that is happening in two months. Can't. Breath. *contented sigh*

[milaya]

I'm glad I have a very small family and to be honest the only person in my family I'm close with is my mother. Who also sometimes has a hard time dealing with the fact that there's a big chance I'll be moving to Japan after I graduate university. (3 and a half more years.) And I "hopefully" won't come back again.
But she has time to prepare mentally.
I've always loved traveling, even on my own. I was studying in Russia at the age of 16 and then I've been to Japan countless of times - sometimes months at the time. (And I always said I wanted to marry a Japanese guy XD) But think it's also easier for her to get used to it now, since I'm now studying in the other side of the country and I can only see her once a month maximum.

But she does complain.
"Aw, my daughter is moving to Japan... she's leaving me here... all alone."

I'm hoping to study in Japan for 6 months in 2012... then I'll see how things goes.

[MissAnnThropee]

My situation is a little different. My SO is in the Navy, and he's shipping out to Japan at the end of this year. We recently got engaged and I'm moving there after we get married next year. I'll be living on base, and he'll pretty much be supporting me for a while until I find a job.

My mom wasn't too happy to hear about it, but ultimately, she loves me and told me that she's okay with it. It can be hard, but it'll be worth it.
Good luck telling them dear!

[Kirschlein]

If you're/'ve been in a situation where you'd be the one moving and it was time to tell your family about your plans, how did you tell them?

Me isn't the one moving, but i can tell about my SO... as far as i can concern, he told at first his mother and somehow the other family members got to know it by just seeing that its a really serious relationship. After them finding out he told them a bit more clearly, but there are still some members left. I guess he wants to do it slowly xD

To be honest, i would also do it. But like always parts.. not only one person, but my parents... then my siblings (if i would know them xD).. my aunts and uncles... etc. Bit by bit.

How i would tell them is pretty easy too... i would say it in a serious manner and clearly, so they don't even have the chance to start thinking i would change my mind. No way!

And how did they react? Were they upset or supportive from the start?

His siblings were pretty supportive since the very start. His mother wanted to be sure, that he has a job here etc. He kinda failed at telling her, because he said it like he wants to stop his job and move here without anything. But i actually found already two job chances he will pretty surely get if he learns German. After he told her that, she got supportive too.

[DarkSolitary]

well i havent moved yet but my mom has told me and i quote lol "i will miss you but i want you to go, you need to go and get a life of your own! cant always be near us all the time"

If only my SO's mom was that awesome. :/

My parents like my SO and are just as excited as i am (okay maybe not that excited ) about him moving here. His mom though is selfish and wants him to stay at home until he is 25. -_- Which is not happening. All I know is that hell is going to break loose when he tells her after he graduates that he is gonna move out. Fun times....

[Caitlin2009]

If only my SO's mom was that awesome. :/

My parents like my SO and are just as excited as i am (okay maybe not that excited ) about him moving here. His mom though is selfish and wants him to stay at home until he is 25. -_- Which is not happening. All I know is that hell is going to break loose when he tells her after he graduates that he is gonna move out. Fun times....

she wants him to stay home until he's 25??? controlling much? i moved out when i was 19 thank god cause my father still drives me crazy