Moving somewhere new together / Meeting halfway

[Dziubka]

It seems that for most of you to close the distance one partner is relocating to the other.

However my boyfriend and I are planning to move to a new city that's almost exactly in the middle between our cities. It seems only fair for the both of us to move, we both love the city and most important: there's a uni we can both get our master's degree at.
It'll be easier for me, cause it's in Germany and I'm already used to being for away from my family, but he'll be getting a better education than he could at home.
So I feel it's a good compromise.

Is anyone else planning to close the distance by both parties moving? Do you think it's easier or harder than one moving to the other? Would it be an option for you?

[Tabitha]

My SO and I are both moving to a new city. We'll be moving in together in Atlanta, GA which is 3 hours from where he lives now, and about 5 hours from where I currently live. I think it will make things easier. It will be a new experience for both of us in a place that is just ours.

[BabyGund]

Back when we entertained such thoughts, we talked about us moving to a neutral 3rd city. We kicked around Los Angeles, Las Vegas, Minneapolis-St. Paul, Little Rock.

Eh, who knows. It's fun to dream.

[snow_girl]

Im in Canada and my SO is in the Uk. The plan for now is to both move to London. Its much closer to his hometown but he just spent a few months here so it seems like a fair trade off. Eventually I'd like to move back to Canada not necessarily to where my family is but somewhere closer then uk.

[blankita719]

This is what my SO wants to do. He's up in NH and I am in FL, and his thought is to possibly move somewhere around Virginia...we're still trying to work that part out though.

[Moon]

I guess that wouldn't work for us, we'd both have to find a new country. What a mess that would be for jobs, visas and residency permits and stuff!

[TknandLvnIt]

My SO and I also plan on moving to a halfway point...we don't want to move until we are both financially stable but I think the idea of being able to start my life with him...just the two of us...sounds amazing and I look forward to it but of course I know that it will be a while.

[BoogleBee]

We don't really know yet. We live so far away from each other Germany to New Zealand. My dad is english so I can get a british passport which allows me to live in Germany rather than her go through such troubles for a visa to come here. But she loves NZ, and would really like to live here. However it is so far away from her mum and they are like the best of friends. So we thought I would go to Germany mid-year 2012 when I finish Uni (although I will need to come back at some point to attend graduation), to stay with her while she earns some money and then we might move to England together. I have always wanted to live in England at least for some time during my life. But I don't really know where I want to live now.
I am trying to learn German but it is a long hard process.

[lucybelle]

My SO is moving in with me for a few months, then I'm going to his country for a few years, then we're both going to South America together. Then maybe Italy to learn a new language. And then wherever else the wind takes us He's excited about traveling around with me, and I'm siked I found someone who will follow!!

[Dziubka]

I guess that wouldn't work for us, we'd both have to find a new country. What a mess that would be for jobs, visas and residency permits and stuff!

I had originally written a pargraph about that. For international LDRs it seems quite impossible to go through the whole visa/residency process twice. "Because it's right in the middle between where I live and where (s)he lives" doesn't seem to be a valid reason to gain residency.

It's good to see that we're not the only ones, though.

We're going to meet halfway for our master degrees, because it just seems the best decision. But I have no idea whether we'll actually stay there. It seems unfair to make my boyfriend emmigrate forever and I'm while I'd want our children to go to school in Germany, I've become quite attached to Poland, too.
So we'll see where we'll eventually end up.
We had in fact considered Ireland before. There's a huge Polish community, we've both been before and liked it and it would be abroad for both of us. But with the recent economy and him specialising in railway system engineering (haha, don't ask!) that doesn't seem such a good idea anymore.

[xopookie]

I like that idea! Meeting up halfway, with my situation though it'll be pretty tricky and my SO already has a good paying job so I'm going to move to his area! But I really love that idea of moving halfway though!