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    Nervous to close the distance

    Next week I have an appointment to give my biometrics for a holiday work visa for the UK and then send my application off. As long as my visa is approved my SO and I will be closing the distance in June.

    He just got a job and found us a flat to live in. His mom has been helping him get some stuff together to move in this weekend. We've been talking a lot about what he needs to get and what can wait till I get there.

    I am really excited. I stayed with him for a month when we were both abroad and he spent 5 months with me in Canada (2 months traveling together and 3 months living with me and my parents) so living together is not going to be new for us.

    But this time I am really nervous! I know that we are compatible house mates and that that won't be a problem. I just feel like this time its the real deal its not temporary or with anyone else like in the past. I always told myself I would not move in with someone unless we were engaged. It leaves something to be excited for once you are married to move in together.

    I could see us getting married one day but have never had the conversation. So moving in wouldn't be a waste.

    I'm not sure where this post is going, my head is full of irrational thoughts. Is it normal to be nervous before closing the distance?
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    I think it's completely normal to be nervous. You're starting a whole new life with someone. It's exciting and nerve-wracking the same time. I know you said that you know you're compatible house mates, but everything will still be new. I spent a semester abroad (about 4 months) in my SO's town. When I went back to visit, I had to relearn everything. It's something outside of your comfort zone. I wouldn't expect to be anything less than nervous but excited.
    "I'll hold you in my heart till I can hold you in my arms again."


    "It's supposed to be hard! If it wasn't hard, everyone would do it. The hard...is what makes it great! -A League of Their Own

    Met: August 22, 2010
    Made it official: September 17, 2010
    Got engaged: January 15, 2012
    Our First Visit: November 18, 2010-November 28, 2010
    Our Seventh (and Last) Visit: November 10, 2012-November 24, 2012
    Got married: November 21, 2012
    Big Wedding Date: May 25, 2013
    Closed the Distance: June 2, 2013

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      #3
      YES! I think it's completely normal. Currently, I am a total mixture of excitement and anxiety. I wrote a blog post about it and got lot's of responses from others saying that they felt similar before:
      https://members.lovingfromadistance....range-Feelings

      Maybe it'll help you to read it. It definitely helped me.
      Change is scary. Moving to a new country is scary. Moving in with a partner is scary. And you're doing all three at once--so yes, I think your nerves are very normal.

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        #4
        You'll be just fine, if you can put up with their living habits for more than a month than you'll be just fine! Also I can see how you're nervous yet excited because it's finally happening! Nothing funky, or strange stopping you just the fact that you will finally be closing the distance! Kudos to you!

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          #5
          Yes, it's perfectly normal. I can attest to this.


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            #6
            Heck yeah you should be nervous!!! Gosh I thought I was going to rip my hair out. You'll be just fine!

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