A Rant. Anyone been through something similar?

[DemonxOisin]

I'm in high school in Ontario and my boyfriend is in first year university in British Columbia. In September, I will be moving to UBC but at a different campus from him, a 5 hour drive away. At least we will be a LOT closer to closing the distance. However, we want to know that we can be together as a normal couple, as we've only ever spent a week at a time with each other.

He was going to spend his summer break with me, so we could get an idea of that. However his parents (fairly) pointed out that it would be better for his future to stay where he is, as he can work with his professors to further his experience, and get a stable job. He hasn't decided what to do yet. I told him that they are right, and he should stay there, however it hurts me a lot... It means we will be long distance for a lot longer before we get this opportunity again. I'm moving away from my family, friends and everything I know to be with him (although I am doing it for the adventure of the change as well). It makes me wonder if I'm doing the right thing? We don't even know that we can spend more than a week together with out frustrating each other, and this is an important part of my life.

I love him, and I know he really loves me as well. I'm just sared I guess. I don't know how to react.

I forgot to mention that I can't leave to go see him this summer because of school.

[Jonesonaboat]

Is there the chance of you staying with him over the holidays?

[DemonxOisin]

No, sadly I will be in school until August.

[Joyce:)]

It's all okay, you need to focus on your future in order to build something stable for when one day you will close the distance and spend your life with each other. what hurts on the short run will actually help in the long run.
i keep telling my boyfriend, especially at the airport, that this distance is temportary, and hurting now will be worth it when we will be together, so just stay strong!
xoxo

[Joyce:)]

ps i loooove your signature, i always tease my boyfriend about getting him drunk and marrying him at an elvis chapel

[DemonxOisin]

Aww thanks for that, it helped a lot
Ahaha It's obviously the best way to get married! XP

[NikkiP]

If you are moving up to UBC for the experience as opposed to just your relationship then you are doing the right thing. You are right though, it is very important to spend a good chunk of time together to see how y'all can coexist more than just a week at a time.

Good luck!

[RyanJr]

Ontario is a lot cheaper then BC and the cost of living is a lot lower.. thats something to consider too! Although, i know university is slightly cheaper in BC. I'm in ontario and my gf is in BC.. she is moving here next week because realisitically, we can make it here financially..where in BC, we would be struggling so much.

Good luck in whatever you do, BC or Ontario!

[Zephii]

I know everyone usually says that school and work are the most important because of the future and blah blah, however - how can you know you's are even working towards a future together if you've never had the quality time together? A solid relationship is also a big part of your future, one that people often discount or think should take second place. I'm not saying he should or shouldn't stay. I'm just offering an opinion.

[lucybelle]

Meh.. first year in college- a summer without a job won't kill him. Yeah it'd look good if he worked there, but he could also turn it around and say something like he went traveling for a summer. Which I think is just as impressive.

Honestly when you're this young there's not a whole lot to do to help your future. You know? Like no internships will take you, it's just the first year! I think he should pack up his stuff and try out this relationship!

And as a side note-- my SO and I had only spent a week at a time together too before he moved in with me. Now he's been here for 2 months and we've been getting along great.