Hello everyone!
I'm not posting for anything happening any time soon, just something that I've always been thinking about so... you never know, I might actually do that at some point. So I thought getting opinions from others in a LDR like me could be of great advice.
I've been with my SO for 2 years now, we live in different countries (2 hours flight, so it's not too bad) and in these 2 years, we never got to celebrate my or his bday together. It's something important for me, cos I'd love to spend my bday with him and I'd love to be able to do something special for him on his bday, even just something simple like bringing him breakfast to bed or things like that. But as I said, in these 2 years it was never possible, due to the difficulty of making everything fit with my university exams (both of our bdays are in exams months) and his days off. Last year I managed to be with him till a couple of days before his bday, but not on THAT day. Obviously he said he was very happy being with me those days, even if it wasnt exactly on his birthday, cos a bday isnt much more than a normal day to him and so on. And it's great, don't get me wrong, but to me it's just not the same. I know it might be silly to someone who doesnt give it that much importance as my SO.
Anyway, fast forward. Next month I'm going to his country, and the month after it's his bday. Normally, we get to meet every 2-3 months, and alternate visits, so according to our "normal pattern of visits" we won't be together on his bday. But I was thinking of organising a surprise visit, cos this year around his birthday i wont have exams (yay!). And the fact he lives with his sister would definitely be a HUGE help for organising the surprise, if i decide to do it. The only thing is he is starting a new job next month and he doesnt know himself how it will be with getting days off. Theorically, it should be better than it was with his previous job, but of course, until you actually have to deal with it, nothing is 100% sure.
Plus, there's a little thing that worries me (and thats the main reason why i thought of hearing what your opinion is): would he appreciate it? My head says "Of course he would!", and this question actually never crossed my mind in the beginning. But when I happened to voice it to some of my friends (who arent in a LDR, if it matters) they were all like "that's risky", "i wouldnt do it", "he could take it wrong" and things like that. And honestly, it made me wonder if it's something I didnt think about and i should consider instead.
So... what's your opinion? Have you ever organised/received a surprise visit? And how was it?
Sorry for the long post, i always get taken away a bit when i start writing ahah
I'm not posting for anything happening any time soon, just something that I've always been thinking about so... you never know, I might actually do that at some point. So I thought getting opinions from others in a LDR like me could be of great advice.
I've been with my SO for 2 years now, we live in different countries (2 hours flight, so it's not too bad) and in these 2 years, we never got to celebrate my or his bday together. It's something important for me, cos I'd love to spend my bday with him and I'd love to be able to do something special for him on his bday, even just something simple like bringing him breakfast to bed or things like that. But as I said, in these 2 years it was never possible, due to the difficulty of making everything fit with my university exams (both of our bdays are in exams months) and his days off. Last year I managed to be with him till a couple of days before his bday, but not on THAT day. Obviously he said he was very happy being with me those days, even if it wasnt exactly on his birthday, cos a bday isnt much more than a normal day to him and so on. And it's great, don't get me wrong, but to me it's just not the same. I know it might be silly to someone who doesnt give it that much importance as my SO.
Anyway, fast forward. Next month I'm going to his country, and the month after it's his bday. Normally, we get to meet every 2-3 months, and alternate visits, so according to our "normal pattern of visits" we won't be together on his bday. But I was thinking of organising a surprise visit, cos this year around his birthday i wont have exams (yay!). And the fact he lives with his sister would definitely be a HUGE help for organising the surprise, if i decide to do it. The only thing is he is starting a new job next month and he doesnt know himself how it will be with getting days off. Theorically, it should be better than it was with his previous job, but of course, until you actually have to deal with it, nothing is 100% sure.
Plus, there's a little thing that worries me (and thats the main reason why i thought of hearing what your opinion is): would he appreciate it? My head says "Of course he would!", and this question actually never crossed my mind in the beginning. But when I happened to voice it to some of my friends (who arent in a LDR, if it matters) they were all like "that's risky", "i wouldnt do it", "he could take it wrong" and things like that. And honestly, it made me wonder if it's something I didnt think about and i should consider instead.
So... what's your opinion? Have you ever organised/received a surprise visit? And how was it?
Sorry for the long post, i always get taken away a bit when i start writing ahah
I did worry whether he'd be happy about me turning up on his doorstep, but he said to me that he absolutely loved it and it gave us an extra couple of weeks that he didn't think we would have had. If you do go ahead with it, best of luck and let us know how it goes! 
I was sooo excited at the idea!! I hope to be able to do it next year though. Fingers crossed
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