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    Newish to the LD thing! But this is promising!

    Hello forums!

    I really don't usually like these intro thingys but for this and how important this LD relationship is to me, I will give 100%!

    So my name is Matt and my SO is Nikki. I am a 28 year old Car Electronics Install Tech. Love everything about video games, hockey and movies...typical guy right. Speaking of which...do many guys post on here? Oh well, here's the story on me and SO...it's a long one...so brace yourselves.

    We met back around March of 2011 at work but we were both with other people at the time. I knew the first time I laid eyes on this girl she would be mine. Kinda crappy for me to think like that being in a relationship, but the heart wants what it wants. Well, as time moved forward we talked a little more and I would help her with her car whenever she needed it (I work on cars for a living). The more I talked to her and got to know her I saw her true inner beauty and was falling in love with someone that wasn't even mine. The relationship I was in started to head down a rocky road and I ended up ending the relationship with that girl because the feelings weren't there anymore.

    Well around December of 2011 me and Nikki started talking more and more and got to know each other way more. Well, we ended up having one AMAZING night together and I knew that we were meant for each other that night. But fate had other plans for us. At the time she was still living with her ex because of the lease they had but were at each others throats all the time. She had already had plans to move to California in March of 2012 but I was going to make it my priority to keep her here with me. Well, some nasty things went down with her ex and she had to move out immediately and had no where to go. At the time I was in a crappy living situation myself and was in the process of buying a house. So, I couldn't offer her anything. So, her only option was to pack up and head to California before the new year. I was devastated. We had talked about doing the long distance thing and I was super scared to do it because the last time I did a LDR the girl ended up cheating on me with her ex and it ruined LDR's for me. So my immediate reaction was to shut down and not allow it. I clearly remember the night I shut it down because I denied her a kiss and told her it wouldn't work. Boy did I regret that.

    Well, she left December 22, 2011 and made it to Cali on the 25th. I sat back and thought to myself, "you made the right decision." WRONG! I found myself talking to her everyday she was gone, whether through text, calls, or computer...I talked to her everyday. It was an instinct to contact her in some way or form. Well my feeling got the best of me and I sent her an email telling her how bad I fucked up and I wanted things to work, I wanted to be with her, I wanted to call her mine. This was around the end of March. She was very hesitant at the time and pretty much said that she couldn't come back because of her family and she was seeing sides of Cali that she liked. Well, we kept what little bit of relationship that we had going and we ended up talking about being together but in a LDR and we would give it a go.

    -Bored yet? I know it's a lot to read but I need all the support I can get because I want her so bad.-

    So, she decided to come out here in May to get the rest of her stuff packed up for shipping. (I went and took her stuff out of storage and put it in my new place so she wouldn't have to pay for storage) Well, I had asked if she would stay with me and she decided to...awesome! I pick her up from the airport, get her back to my place and we start off about where we left off at the beginning of December. Yet again, another amazing night together. Well, she got all her stuff packed up and labeled to be shipped. Was a shitty feeling for me. Long story short here, we had more amazing nights and then she flew home. I ended up telling her I loved her about a month after she left but it took her a good month to say it back with confidence...cloud 9. This is the girl.

    Then, in July, I fly out there to take a vacation and be there for her birthday. Long story short again, we went and did all the tourist things in LA and all that fun amusement park stuff for a week. More amazing nights. Got to see Cali and my love. Leaving was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. But when I was there I realized that there were aspects that made her happy but so many more that made her unhappy...all the unhappy I could fix here.

    Well, I tell her that I can't come out there...bought this new place and can't sell it for at least 2 years. Well some things have changed and there is a "maybe" in the air of her coming back to live here, with me, in my place...then we can call it ours. I wasn't able to send her stuff that she packed up here in May, so I asked if I could toss it in my storage unit and just not ship it. She had no problem with it. So that told me that she's is considering coming back for real.

    For the few years that I have lived alone, I have never wanted to live with any of my girlfriends...this one I want to. She is simply amazing. She's in my future...I just know it.

    Sorry for the long ass intro! Haha Thanks to those of you that stuck around for the whole thing...like I said...I love this girl so much and am willing to do anything to be with her.

    Matt

    #2
    Your story is very sweet! Welcome to LFAD!

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      #3
      Welcome to the forums! I think there are guys posting here!


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        #4
        I'm pretty sure there's a group for the guys who post- definitely worth checking out. It's great to see another guy on the forum, I hope the number of ladies don't scare you away, haha!

        Welcome to LFAD!


        2016 Goal: Buy a house.
        Progress: Complete!

        2017 Goal: Pay off credit card debt
        Progress: Working on it.

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          #5
          Nice intro, welcome to LFAD!
          Our separation of each other is an optical illusion of consciousness. ~Albert Einstein

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            #6
            Welcome to LFAD!! Sweet story. (:

            "I love you and I've loved you all along and I miss you. Been far away for far too long."<3

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              #7
              Thanks you guys! It's been a rough few days for me but it's nice to have a forum to be a part of and see other peoples stories. Some of you have been in these LDR's for years...I couldn't bear it and I have respect for you. Thanks again and expect to see a lot of me here.

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