Alright. I admit to being a bit nervous about this because, honestly, I'm not so much an open person. Let me start by introducing myself. My SO (24M) and I (19F) have been, officially, together for four months. We met online when he was with his ex, and we became best friends a year and a half ago. His ex and he split up last summer. Being friends, though, our bonds never lessened or wavered, and we were there for each other for a lot of things. I was in my first two years of college, and he was working, and when we wanted to talk, we did. This past May, a bit after my birthday, he and I discussed the idea of dating, and decided not to, and then on July 23rd, we became a couple.
We'll have known each other for two years late this December. He and I are honest with each other, telling each other our doubts, our dreams, our peeves, and more. Trusting people has been a really hard thing for me, for years, and he knows the reasons why, and still loves me, despite them. We know each other's flaws - both as friends and as a couple, for the most part. Even before we began dating, I was truly considering moving with him, because of the simple fact that we were so close, even as friends, and we wanted to be closer. We're over 4000 miles apart. He in Alaska, me in North Carolina. Ever since we began dating, we decided that we should try saving up, for a visit, and due to many things these past few months, we've decided that it'd be best to move to the same city.
With me being 19, and my mom and dad having never really let me truly date before until I was 17, I lived with my parents up until a few months ago, and I was really scared that my family wouldn't approve, but my mom approves of, and honestly likes the way that my SO treats me, which, honestly, is with respect, love, and gentleness. Most of my family supports us, and a few weeks ago, we earned my "sister's" approval, she being someone who told us to break it off as soon as I told her. After two months of us being together, she finally relented, and my mom actually said that she'd help me move (not financially, but physically helping me) if she could. And she's also putting away extra money, just in case.
My SO and I are thinking with our heads, but also with our hearts. Honestly, four timezones and over 4000 miles is difficult, especially on the bad days, and we know each other well. We've also discussed many of our future plans, quirks, habits, and such, so I have an idea of what to expect from him, and he from me.
I really don't know what much else to say.
We'll have known each other for two years late this December. He and I are honest with each other, telling each other our doubts, our dreams, our peeves, and more. Trusting people has been a really hard thing for me, for years, and he knows the reasons why, and still loves me, despite them. We know each other's flaws - both as friends and as a couple, for the most part. Even before we began dating, I was truly considering moving with him, because of the simple fact that we were so close, even as friends, and we wanted to be closer. We're over 4000 miles apart. He in Alaska, me in North Carolina. Ever since we began dating, we decided that we should try saving up, for a visit, and due to many things these past few months, we've decided that it'd be best to move to the same city.
With me being 19, and my mom and dad having never really let me truly date before until I was 17, I lived with my parents up until a few months ago, and I was really scared that my family wouldn't approve, but my mom approves of, and honestly likes the way that my SO treats me, which, honestly, is with respect, love, and gentleness. Most of my family supports us, and a few weeks ago, we earned my "sister's" approval, she being someone who told us to break it off as soon as I told her. After two months of us being together, she finally relented, and my mom actually said that she'd help me move (not financially, but physically helping me) if she could. And she's also putting away extra money, just in case.
My SO and I are thinking with our heads, but also with our hearts. Honestly, four timezones and over 4000 miles is difficult, especially on the bad days, and we know each other well. We've also discussed many of our future plans, quirks, habits, and such, so I have an idea of what to expect from him, and he from me.
I really don't know what much else to say.
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