Hello everyone! I wanted to come in and introduce myself.
I began dating my boyfriend last January. I am 31, he is 28. He is incredible and we suit each other perfectly. He is my best friend and even if we were not dating I would want to know him. I am divorced and I have three girls. He has two girls and has never been married. In September he moved back to his hometown(300 miles) for a job. At first when he moved we talked about me moving out there to be with him. But after some soul searching I recently came to the concolusion that I can't move my children so far away. Their father lives here, all of their friends and family. They still attend the same elementary school where they went to preschool. I feel like the move would only be in my best interest and not theirs. On top of that I have become inceasingly resentful toward him for moving away. I would become lonely which would turn to anger which would turn into texts to him that were mean and unfair. Once I decided against the move I figured I should end the relationship even though I didn't want to. I told him and he understood but we were both devestated and miserable.
I have been so upset without him. There are good things there. I know in my gut that we have a future though I don't yet know what it will look like. He begged me to do some research and decide if there was any way I could continue. So I did. I learned a lot. I learned that not all relationships are the same. And that's okay. I learned that it's okay to continue even if we won't be able to be together for a few more years. I have recommited to this relationship with a new perspective and attitude. At this point I just can't see my life without him in it. He is following his dream and I am going to try my hardest to support him and make it through this.
In doing some research I found this site. I hope it helps me in this journey. Most people do not understand what it's like being in a LDR so this forum is (hopefully) exactly what I need.
I began dating my boyfriend last January. I am 31, he is 28. He is incredible and we suit each other perfectly. He is my best friend and even if we were not dating I would want to know him. I am divorced and I have three girls. He has two girls and has never been married. In September he moved back to his hometown(300 miles) for a job. At first when he moved we talked about me moving out there to be with him. But after some soul searching I recently came to the concolusion that I can't move my children so far away. Their father lives here, all of their friends and family. They still attend the same elementary school where they went to preschool. I feel like the move would only be in my best interest and not theirs. On top of that I have become inceasingly resentful toward him for moving away. I would become lonely which would turn to anger which would turn into texts to him that were mean and unfair. Once I decided against the move I figured I should end the relationship even though I didn't want to. I told him and he understood but we were both devestated and miserable.
I have been so upset without him. There are good things there. I know in my gut that we have a future though I don't yet know what it will look like. He begged me to do some research and decide if there was any way I could continue. So I did. I learned a lot. I learned that not all relationships are the same. And that's okay. I learned that it's okay to continue even if we won't be able to be together for a few more years. I have recommited to this relationship with a new perspective and attitude. At this point I just can't see my life without him in it. He is following his dream and I am going to try my hardest to support him and make it through this.
In doing some research I found this site. I hope it helps me in this journey. Most people do not understand what it's like being in a LDR so this forum is (hopefully) exactly what I need.
This site will absolutely help in your journey, you'll be surprised by just how normal an LDR is, and how much you can adjust, especially with kids to keep you busy. I'm glad you decided to pursue this relationship, as you'll see here, happiness isn't defined by miles!
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