So happy to find this group!

[kage]

Hello everyone!

My boyfriend and I have been in a LDR ever since the very beginning of our relationship. It's been extremely difficult as we're both actors/ filmmakers so our schedules are very up in the air and we must find and make time to be able to talk to each other. But this is honestly the happiest I've ever been. After 1.5years so far of this struggle, I totally feel it is worth the missing and longing. We actually ended up making a short film about our LDR experience together and even shot it long distance to stay true to the difficulty we both have with communicating with each other, especially online. We even won Best Dramatic Short at the DIY Film Festival in Hollywood! I'd love to be able to share it with all of you on here somehow because I'm sure this community would be the most supportive of our story since so many if not all of us have the same struggles. It was very therapeutic for us to make art together, even from a distance, and now we have a new way of being able to spend time together.

I hope to be able to contribute as best as I can to this lovely community and I hope everyone's relationships are happy, healthy, and strong. Keep fighting the good fight!

[wayoutofhere]

https://thehappymonologues.tumblr.co...n-our-long#_=_

Is it this one?

[AshleyC]

Thats interesting Kage! I would like to see it as I am going to try and make a 20 minute film myself for my dissertation project on the same subject but probably from a more general perspective.

ps I lived in Denmark for many years so I read your name instantly as "cake" because thats what it means in Danish! Whoops my bad

Now its coffee time in London!

[kage]

IT IS! You found it! I hope that if you watched it you were moved by it! Thanks

[kage]

Hi AshleyC! Please do watch it! The forum won't let me post the link here because I'm still too new to the site but wayoutofhere found it from my tumblr and posted it above Good look with your dissertation! I'm sure it'll be a very interesting and informative one

And HAHAHAH I learned a new word today! I should just change it to Cake. It sounds better haha. Thanks so much and enjoy your coffee!

[wayoutofhere]

Yeah it was pretty good. I don't think I understood it completely though, but maybe I was just too tired and should watch it again.

[kage]

Thanks! If you have questions then feel free to ask

[Oldblighty]

Thanks for sharing this wayoutofhere...I really enjoyed it.....

And welcome to LFAD Kage!!

[kage]

Thanks so much Oldblighty!! It's nice to be surrounded by people who truly understand the good and the bad of a long distance relationship. It will be so nice to come here for support. And I'm SUPER glad that you enjoyed my short film! Thanks

[Caity]

Welcome

[Jazi]

welcome!I watched the short film, it was interesting, I'd like to hear your take on the storyline/what it means to you two.

look forward to seeing you around LFAD

[kage]

Thank you!!!

[kage]

Hi Jazi! Thanks for taking the time to watch our short film! This is a very personal story for us. My boyfriend and I have a hard time communicating with each other in terms of really being able to listen to each other and I really wanted that to come through in this story. It wasn't just about the challenges of being in a long distance relationship but the challenges of being able communicate well in any kind of relationship. It parallels soooo well with the bullshit of horrible internet connection when you're trying to have a serious conversation, especially if that's the best means of communicating with each other. This situation has happened many times for my boyfriend and I (except for all the time traveling HAHAHAH) and it destroys us because we can't just hold each other when it's finally over. Making this with him was very therapeutic for me and it gave us a chance to work on something so personal and real for us. We just hope people can relate to it! Thanks so much again and I hope I answered your questions!

[Jazi]

Hi Jazi! Thanks for taking the time to watch our short film! This is a very personal story for us. My boyfriend and I have a hard time communicating with each other in terms of really being able to listen to each other and I really wanted that to come through in this story. It wasn't just about the challenges of being in a long distance relationship but the challenges of being able communicate well in any kind of relationship. It parallels soooo well with the bullshit of horrible internet connection when you're trying to have a serious conversation, especially if that's the best means of communicating with each other. This situation has happened many times for my boyfriend and I (except for all the time traveling HAHAHAH) and it destroys us because we can't just hold each other when it's finally over. Making this with him was very therapeutic for me and it gave us a chance to work on something so personal and real for us. We just hope people can relate to it! Thanks so much again and I hope I answered your questions!

I did very much relate to the end where you two did a computer screen hug, it really makes so much difference to be able to have a good hug with your SO after an argument.. I know it really effects me to not be able to. I also liked how all his skype sessions popped up on the screen, like his memory was projecting them there as to why he shouldn't give up.

[kage]

Jazi, what an excellent take on the short film with the iChats being projected as memories. We both love that so much! And yes, hugging my laptop has definitely become such a normal thing. I find that I've been having my most serious talks with him through iChat because of our distance apart and who wants to fight when your in person right? It's so tough what we do. I have so much admiration for your LDR. Amazing amazing strength! Congrats to you both!