Hi from NY

[nikki521]

Hi, my name is Nicole! My long distance relationship with my boyfriend began at the end of August. He's a senior in college and I'm starting my first year of graduate school. It's been a huge mix of emotion (in addition to starting a new program). He's been so supportive of me and I love him so much and we talk about our future and I know he plans to move to NYC after he graduates, but I just have to get through this year.

I'm hoping to find people to talk to since I've been struggling with the distance and I'm hoping it gets easier with time. I don't want to alienate my new friends by always bringing up my boyfriend, but he's the only thing I can focus on, and I know that's not healthy.

I found this site while looking up information about long distance couples and how they handled the distance and it seemed like a supportive community.

Best, Nicole

[milaya]

Hi Nicole. Welcome!
This is a very supportive community, where you can ask for any advice you need. It's also a good place for you to tell about your worries., bad days and good days.

[Firefly]

Welcome to LFAD.

[Karringtyn]

Welcome! I am from NY too!

[Lilly9886]

Welcome to LFAD!

[Rugger]

Welcome to LFAD! I'm a New Yorker as well ( although I live in the subrubs), I work in Lower Manhattan. Nice to meet you!

[HopelessR]

Wish I had some advice for you. Im doing the same exact unhealthy thing you are and just focus on the girl I care about overseas. I really dont care about anything else. Just lletting you know you're not alone and hopefully will get through it too

[Neide]

Hello and welcome!!! you'll be getting so much support here as it's a very welcoming community. plus if you need someone to talk to then feel free to message me, i also joined to find ways to help cope with the distance and i have actually felt so much better about it than when i first joined!

[bribri2729]

Hey! I'm new too I recently put a post up asking for advice and immediately got feedback. Everyone is helpful and friendly

[Kristin91]

Welcome to LFAD! I think you'll find we're like a big family over here

[Lindsay91]

Welcome! The best thing you can do is to try to spend as much time with your friends or family to try to keep your mind off any loneliness you might be feeling, and think positive thoughts! AKA you have a wonderful relationship, you'll see him as soon as you can, etc. Try not to let yourself get bummed out, because it turns into a downward spiral that's hard to get out of. But really, time will help. You'll be just fine

Something I did that helped with my situation was finding a special friend or two (by special friend, I don't mean anything romantic - just someone you REALLY feel you can trust and tell anything to), and hang out with them as much as possible. Sometimes having one or two people that you can really trust can go a REALLY long way in making your LDR easier to deal with.