I've been afraid to post anything, because my SO's family doesn't yet know about our relationship. He has grown children that aren't ready for their dad to date. Long story, and I don't want to give any details that might give away what's up.
Even though I've not been posting, I've been encouraged and inspired by many of your posts. I never knew so many people were involved in ldr's.
How in the world do you get through the holidays without your SO? I'm very depressed this year. He gets to be with his grown children and other family, but I can't be with him. I know I'm selfish, but I hurt and feel sorry for myself. When he is with his family, it's like I'm not even on the planet. He says he will try to stay connected with me during those days, but he doesn't. No Skype, no phone calls, and only a very, brief email very infrequently. We usually Skype everyday and email everyday, so these days, I feel like a dirty magazine that's been shoved under the mattress. It makes me feel unloved.
Thanksgiving was tough enough like that, but it will be worse in December. During December he is taking an extended Christmas trip with his family. He will be completely off the grid for one week and mostly unavailable for half the month. When do I get to be important and a priority? I share some of my concerns with him, but I don't want to chase him.
Are there others out there with SO's with adult children? How do you deal? They smother, they demand, they control, they will never get it.
I think Christmas is the worst and the most depressing. It doesn't matter what I do, or how many friends and family I am around, I still hurt away from my most significant.
Thank you for reading this post. Any ideas would be most appreciated.
Even though I've not been posting, I've been encouraged and inspired by many of your posts. I never knew so many people were involved in ldr's.
How in the world do you get through the holidays without your SO? I'm very depressed this year. He gets to be with his grown children and other family, but I can't be with him. I know I'm selfish, but I hurt and feel sorry for myself. When he is with his family, it's like I'm not even on the planet. He says he will try to stay connected with me during those days, but he doesn't. No Skype, no phone calls, and only a very, brief email very infrequently. We usually Skype everyday and email everyday, so these days, I feel like a dirty magazine that's been shoved under the mattress. It makes me feel unloved.
Thanksgiving was tough enough like that, but it will be worse in December. During December he is taking an extended Christmas trip with his family. He will be completely off the grid for one week and mostly unavailable for half the month. When do I get to be important and a priority? I share some of my concerns with him, but I don't want to chase him.
Are there others out there with SO's with adult children? How do you deal? They smother, they demand, they control, they will never get it.
I think Christmas is the worst and the most depressing. It doesn't matter what I do, or how many friends and family I am around, I still hurt away from my most significant.
Thank you for reading this post. Any ideas would be most appreciated.
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