So I've never joined a long distance online support group. I was actually trying to see if there was a support group in my area but I found this first so I thought I would give it a shot.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for three months and we started right before I left for graduate school. So now I am 100 miles away. While it doesn't seem like much, with the intensity of school, we don't get to see each other that often. At first we tried to visit each other all the time but I was really falling behind, and he keeps repeating that he feels like he is distracting me. So now we only see each other every month and a half maybe. It's really taking a toll on me. He does not like to skype and I don't that much either but maybe I should suggest it one day... I am a very physical and visual person. I need facial expressions, body language and touch to ensure me of a point or sincerity. I do okay with the phone but it's not the same.
He is older than me and has been married and divorced so he is more hesitant to getting too attached quickly. If I don't talk to him for a day or two I start to wonder if he still cares, if he is getting tired of the distance or similar doubts. I am not amazing at texting or technology but it still gets to me when it takes him several hours to respond to a message if at all. He also says that he does not want to call me, to interrupt if I am studying for a test or working on a paper, to just call him if I have time. I feel weird about this because I feel like there should be more equality. I have tried to explain this to him but he also brings up the fact that he has not dated anyone seriously for the 10 years its been since he got divorced. Therefore, he has been single for a long time and got very used to that.
I don't want to write too much. It's just my introduction. So if this sounds familiar to anyone, I would greatly appreciate some tips.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for three months and we started right before I left for graduate school. So now I am 100 miles away. While it doesn't seem like much, with the intensity of school, we don't get to see each other that often. At first we tried to visit each other all the time but I was really falling behind, and he keeps repeating that he feels like he is distracting me. So now we only see each other every month and a half maybe. It's really taking a toll on me. He does not like to skype and I don't that much either but maybe I should suggest it one day... I am a very physical and visual person. I need facial expressions, body language and touch to ensure me of a point or sincerity. I do okay with the phone but it's not the same.
He is older than me and has been married and divorced so he is more hesitant to getting too attached quickly. If I don't talk to him for a day or two I start to wonder if he still cares, if he is getting tired of the distance or similar doubts. I am not amazing at texting or technology but it still gets to me when it takes him several hours to respond to a message if at all. He also says that he does not want to call me, to interrupt if I am studying for a test or working on a paper, to just call him if I have time. I feel weird about this because I feel like there should be more equality. I have tried to explain this to him but he also brings up the fact that he has not dated anyone seriously for the 10 years its been since he got divorced. Therefore, he has been single for a long time and got very used to that.
I don't want to write too much. It's just my introduction. So if this sounds familiar to anyone, I would greatly appreciate some tips.