Hi folks! I'm an American (30/F), and I recently started dating a British guy (30/M) I met when I was traveling in the UK last December.
We only spent 4-5 days together back in December, but the connection was felt intensely by both of us, so we stayed in touch through the holidays, and at some point decided we should "give it a go," as the Brits would say. Why not?
As it happens, I'm a freelancer with a very flexible schedule, so I came back over to the UK at the beginning of March to spend some time with him, and to give us the chance to "try on" being a couple. Add in to the mix that he's in the military, is pretty busy, and travels often for work. He just bought a house, so I'm living in it with him while I'm here (the next three months).
Our major immediate challenge is living together even though we still barely know each other, really. Fortunately, we are similar in a lot of ways that matter when keeping house together with someone else: our levels of cleanliness and organization seem to be matching up well, and our daily schedules mesh well.
We're both having to learn things on the fly, though.
I'm learning that he hates grocery shopping, and if he has to "waste" an evening doing it with me, it puts him in a bit of a bad mood. (Solution: Tesco home delivery! Or I shop myself, which I actually enjoy.)
I can't speak with certainty about what he's learning, but I imagine it's things like the fact that I enjoy long, hot showers, or that I'm anal about bed pillows and have to sleep on a clean pillowcase every night.
Anyway, I arrived to this site by chance after searching for some information. If things continue to go well between us, I imagine I'll be considering visa stuff and other international issues eventually. The military aspect, of course, adds a further twist, but he might be exiting service some time next year anyway.
We have yet to talk much about big issues like, which of us would want to move for the other? Or would we both want to move? Since we're still pretty fresh into the start, I'm not hugely concerned about those things yet. We're both still learning about each other and seeing how we feel. Our chemistry is great, the sex is amazing, we have so many of the same hobbies, and our family values seem on par with each other's. I feel like that's a great start, so I'm optimistic.
We'll be together here in the UK until the end of June. Then he has quite a bit of traveling to do for work, but we're going to squeeze in a week in a US national park in August. Then, it would likely be November/December 2015 before I saw him again. This is of course assuming things continue to go well
Well! Thanks for letting me ramble. Hope everyone is feeling happy and connected to their long-distance partners today!
We only spent 4-5 days together back in December, but the connection was felt intensely by both of us, so we stayed in touch through the holidays, and at some point decided we should "give it a go," as the Brits would say. Why not?
As it happens, I'm a freelancer with a very flexible schedule, so I came back over to the UK at the beginning of March to spend some time with him, and to give us the chance to "try on" being a couple. Add in to the mix that he's in the military, is pretty busy, and travels often for work. He just bought a house, so I'm living in it with him while I'm here (the next three months).
Our major immediate challenge is living together even though we still barely know each other, really. Fortunately, we are similar in a lot of ways that matter when keeping house together with someone else: our levels of cleanliness and organization seem to be matching up well, and our daily schedules mesh well.
We're both having to learn things on the fly, though.
I'm learning that he hates grocery shopping, and if he has to "waste" an evening doing it with me, it puts him in a bit of a bad mood. (Solution: Tesco home delivery! Or I shop myself, which I actually enjoy.)
I can't speak with certainty about what he's learning, but I imagine it's things like the fact that I enjoy long, hot showers, or that I'm anal about bed pillows and have to sleep on a clean pillowcase every night.
Anyway, I arrived to this site by chance after searching for some information. If things continue to go well between us, I imagine I'll be considering visa stuff and other international issues eventually. The military aspect, of course, adds a further twist, but he might be exiting service some time next year anyway.
We have yet to talk much about big issues like, which of us would want to move for the other? Or would we both want to move? Since we're still pretty fresh into the start, I'm not hugely concerned about those things yet. We're both still learning about each other and seeing how we feel. Our chemistry is great, the sex is amazing, we have so many of the same hobbies, and our family values seem on par with each other's. I feel like that's a great start, so I'm optimistic.
We'll be together here in the UK until the end of June. Then he has quite a bit of traveling to do for work, but we're going to squeeze in a week in a US national park in August. Then, it would likely be November/December 2015 before I saw him again. This is of course assuming things continue to go well
Well! Thanks for letting me ramble. Hope everyone is feeling happy and connected to their long-distance partners today!
We are all here to support you in any case 
Comment