hi all

[sdfan]

Well, I had to join to read any threads haha, and figured since I did I might as well post . I am maybe on the verge of starting a LDR... we have talked about it, but it's hard because she is scared of us getting hurt. Unfortunately she has a busy schedule which means I don't get to talk to her as much as I would like. I'm so conflicted because of course I want to be with her, but I know if she is not fully into it, there's not much I can do about it... she has told me sometimes she really needs me, but for whatever reason, my guess is that she is afraid of getting too close, I still rarely see her. Maybe every few days if I'm lucky. Did everyone else have the same problem of deciding to commit or was it easy for most of you?

[true_survivor_586]

once you realize that you get hurt in every relationship, having a long distance relationship is just a matter of do u wanna be with that person and can u handle not seeing them all the time, it wasnt even a question for me and my SO if it was the right thing, it just happened, and it wont be long distance forever, we will be together for ever one day

[Andy]

Hi, welcome to LFAD

Me and my SO Tanja (also on here ) were a bit reluctant to take the leap, but if you're both committed to one another then you can make it work

How long have you known each other?

[Tanja]

Hi and welcome!

It takes quite a lot of courage to start an LDR but it's usually so worth it! If you love and trust each other you won't get hurt, you can just enjoy a wonderful relationship and be happy that you've found each other

[sdfan]

yea, i hope it can work out. heres my other thread with more details for anyone who hasn't seen it

https://members.lovingfromadistance....-what-can-I-do

[5000miles]

Welcome to LFAD! And good luck!

[paulawriteslove]

Hey! Welcome to the community!
I think that everyone first has thoughts like that, but once you realize you can get hurt from anything, it makes the leap worth it!

[Erika]

Welcome to the forums

[Silviar]

Welcome to the forums.

It takes a lot of strength and commitment to make an LDR work, and sometimes they're just not for everyone. Hurt in relationships happens no matter the distance. I would talk to her about if she's afraid of having a close, personal relationship and what specifically her holdbacks are.

[Karringtyn]

Welcome to LFAD!

[Dauntedpoet]

Um, yeah we were both idiots for a really long time, but we just kept at it! Welcome to LFAD