My first post, a bit uncomfortable.

[Connor]

Hi,
My name is Connor. I'm pretty new to the forums, but my SO has posted a little on here. I used to tease her a little bit about this site, not making fun of her, i just found it cute. I come and look around every now and then.
Well, my story: Shaylon and I have been together for 6.5 months 'Officially' as a couple. We have always been together on and off for the past 3 years now. We met online and clicked instantly. She was the coolest girl i had, and still to the date, ever met. We finally met in person a month ago, and things were so much better than i could have ever dreamed for them to be. Since then though, we've both been having a difficult time being apart. I thought everything would be easier once we were together, but things are honestly harder. I love her with everything i have, and she really does make me the happiest man alive, but my biggest fear is not being able to do enough for her anymore, or not making her feel the way i do. We plan to get married and have a family once we are both able to be together and stay together, but the time leading up to that is like watching the clock. i have no doubt that we were meant to be together, i just feel like her and i are so alone in the sense that not many people know what a LDR is like and no one can really give advice like they could with a normal relationship.

Thats how things are for me. I know she loves me, and i know she feels as strongly for me as i do for her, i just really worry at times.

I know this is a bit of a morbid first post, and i am sorry. Thank you to everyone who reads it all, i really appreciate it.

[Joyce:)]

Welcome to the forum.
Being in a LDR can be really tough, especially after you have been physically with the person, because you realize even more how much you are meant to be with them.
Many of us are in international LDRs, or anyway long distance relationships that are most possibly going to stay long distance for a few years, if not more.
In my case, it will be 3 years because of university and because of being in different countries.
Connor, don't worry, it is possible to get through this no matter how long you will have to be apart from each other.
My boyfriend teases me about this site too, and he too thinks its cute, and i'm sure that actually seeing how other people are in your situation you will feel a bit better and be more reassured.
Anyway, welcome again

[Connor]

Hey, thank you a whole lot
It really is nice to have people to talk to about it. yeah, 1000 miles isn't near as far as some people, and i should be more greatful for that. Our time apart should be over in about 1.5 years, and i'm super excited for it. I know we'll get through this. I refuse to accept any other possibilities than making it through Thank you.

[Joyce:)]

Well that's the right attitude! Well done in keeping up regardless the 1000 miles that stand between you.
I hope this site can be helpful when you feel a little down, and good luck with the 1.5 years.. As i often think (and probably many others here do too), a few years apart are nothing in comparison to a life together.

[Rosebud]

Welcome to LFAD Hope you find what you're looking for here and you'll soon find you and your girl are definitely not the only ones going through the hardships and troubles that come along with a long distance relationship.

[blankita719]

Welcome to the forums The nice thing (or not depending on how you look at it) about this place is that someone has usually been through something similar to what you might go through. Hope you find what you are looking for here!

[Connor]

Thank you all
Its nice to be on a forum where everyone is supportive and helpful. I'll probably study this site more than i will any text book. I hope to get to know some people on here just so that we can share stories and i feel a bit more comfortable, i'm not exactly the most social person.

[iamangel]

Hi Connor Welcome to LFAD Your post is really sweet and real...Anyway, we're happy that you and your SO are doing great. Keep it up and God bless.

[Connor]

Hey iamangel, thank you I really appreciate it all.

[iamangel]

Welcome I saw your pic with your SO, it's so romantic..I like it

[Connor]

haha kissing in a bathroom while her sister takes a surprise picture? i guess you could say that.
No, the picture turned out great, thank you. i have one i edited just a few hours ago actually that is all black and white, while her and i are still in color.

[Lina]

Welcome on LFAD

[iamangel]

haha kissing in a bathroom while her sister takes a surprise picture? i guess you could say that.
No, the picture turned out great, thank you. i have one i edited just a few hours ago actually that is all black and white, while her and i are still in color.

Hehe...Yeah! That's why I like it. Ahm you better post the one that you edit so your SO can see it.

[Tanja]

Welcome to LFAD Connor! So nice to see that yet another couple has joined the forums

The time after the first meeting is HARD. You've finally found out what it's like to actually be with that perfect person in person and then you're separated again. You can feel very inadequate and hopeless and being LD again just isn't enough.

But that will go away in a bit, you just gotta stick it out. There are so many great things about being LD and I believe 100% that my relationship is stronger and more solid than any of my friend's simply cause my relationship is based on trust and communication whereas 'regular' relationships are usually based on face-to-face chemistry or sex etc.

It's great that you already have a time line of when to close the distance, in my experience it always helps when you have a goal to work toward. It will be rough and you will have your moments of doubt but it is so worth it in the end. I was in a LDR for 3 years and every single tear I would shed again if I had to cause I've never been as happy in my life as I'm now when I'm finally with the man of my dreams.

You certainly have the right attitude so don't give up! Everyone here knows what it's like to struggle with LDR's and there's always someone who can talk to you and help you when you need it. I hope you'll like it here and keep posting.

If you need anything just ask

[Moon]

Welcome Connor! It got harder after your first visit because now you know for sure what you're missing Happens to a lot of us. As you read through the threads, you'll see we're all in this together and you'll get plenty of support.