Any young (teenage) long-distancers out there? :-)

[laura95]

Hey guys, I think I may be the only young (ish) person on here, since not many 16 year olds are in LDRs. But anyway, I don't normally join sites like this & talk to random people but I just need to talk to someone in the same boat as me. I've been with my boyfriend 2 1/2 years, since I was 13 1/2. We're now both 16 & he's moved away due to a parent's work. It's not puppy love, & i'm not "just a kid" as most adults seem to say or think. He's my best friend & my boyfriend, & when this LDR survives, i'll be able to tell everyone I told you so. I wouldn't be willing to put in so much effort, time & money into this relationship if I didn't love him like I do, we're not your average teenagers. But anyway, it's only the start now, he's been gone a few months & now I'd just like to find someone roughly the same age as me, or someone who was my age, that can just give me some assurance that people as young as me are still able to work through LDRs. Curious to know if being my age makes anything particularly difficult, what I need to look out for etc etc. So, young LDR-ers. If you're out there, please let me know! :-)

[kiara_silver]

Hi welcome to this site. There are alot of younger LDR's on this site under 18, so your not alone in this. I started my LDR when i was 16. We been together a bit over 2 years now and met once for 2 months and have plans to spend 9 months together this summer. So stay strong. I know its hard when you get negativeness, especially when its family and friends. I got so much of it in the beginning. Alot of it can't be real, you don't really know him, your desperate falling for some guy online, yadda yadda yadda. But i trust him and my gut, and its been the best thing i've ever done. So your not alone, I hope you like this site, its very helpful. Even if its just to vent, because it does get hard sometimes, but its so worth it.

[Sora1101]

You're definitely not alone out there, I started my LDR when I was 15 and have been with my SO for 2 years now so I'm now 17.

It's totally possible to make it work it just takes a bit more effort for us teens because it's harder for us to see our SO's and other teens don't seem to understand why we don't just date someone closer to home but again it's definitely do-able. You just need to show all the adults how pure and true your love is, age doesn't matter, it has nothing to do with being in love.

[Tobby]

I'm probably the youngest being 14 haha. BUT YES, I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU ON EVERYTHING! i hate how adults seem to assume its just "puppy love". I feel like we have alot in common and we really aren't just the average teenagers with simple minds. I'm not one to ramble on websites either unless it really does affect me. Can't wait to get to know you more! and welcome to the forums! yay for teens.

[MissButterfly]

Haha, no you're not the only one. Me and my SO are both 17. Yay for teen-LDR's! Welcome to the forum =)

[Xanahtas]

Im 16 I was 15 when me and my SO first got together :P We've been together a year and a bit now and engaged Close to closing the distance

[DemonxOisin]

Well, me and my SO got together when we were both 18, not sure if that´s what you meant exactly :P
I just wanted so say that what you said was beautiful! Stay strong girl! We´re all here for you

[HollzHeartsChris]

I was 17 and he was 15 when we started our LDR. I'm now 18 and he's 16, yet I thought he was my own age when we first met

[nic&matt]

You're not alone at all. My SO is 2-3 years older than me. We started at 16 and 18 now we're 17 and 19 (almost 20). It's possible and comes with its own set of challenges.

Things to be careful about!
1.) You love him/her, yes. Don't give him everything. Be patient and enjoy life. Being young has so many advantages and opportunities. Never through them away for a guy or girl.
2.) Be social. Other's exsist outside you and your SO. Sure, you love him/her, but you'll lose lots of friends if they're all you think or talk about. Go out and have fun and DO THINGS! Never sit around waiting to talk.
3.) Be prepared for a lot more time. Not everyone is as lucky as Xanahtas. You need to get a good school, a good job, and settle. While some people on here only have 2-3 years of long distance, you might have 7-8. You better be willing for that commitment, not just "hope for the best". Older adults have the luxury (sometimes, not all the time) of moving and taking different jobs. Never sacrifice a career goal or good education.

[Rosebud]

22 is now OLD? D: *sob*


...*sniff* welcome to LFAD

[floridaellen]

My SO and I are 18 but got together at 16/17. But think of it this way: my parents have been together since they were 14 and just celebrated 30 years of marriage. They have the strongest marriage of any of my friends' parents, even while dealing with a handicapped son. So it does happen!

[screammaayday]

Hi! I'm your age. So if you ever need to chat, I'm here! Welcome to the site!