I have just had a pretty nasty shock.
I live in England and I met my boyfriend in April this year, and knew all along that his family would be moving to Canada. This was expected to be in spring 2012. Only, on Wednesday, his mother found a loophole which means that they can go when they like. So I have to say goodbye to him on the 21st of this month.
Over the course of our relationship we've grown extremely attached and we are both very much in love with each other. The plan was that if things were still this good when it was time for him to go, he'd be staying. But of course, that was when we expected to have another several months together first. So he is going with his family until the migration stuff is all approved (in spring), and if things are still good between us he'll come back. So he'll still be making the decision when he said he would, it's just that things will be a lot more difficult because we can't be together until that point. It's my 21st in December and we would've done something really special, but now it's going to be a really sad day
The difficult thing is, as he has the chance to live there forever, I'm terrified he won't come back. His mother is very controlling over him and I worry sick what a few months with her and away from me will do to us. It makes it even more frustrating that if he was just a few months older (making him 22), he wouldn't have even been allowed to go as a dependent in the first place. My boyfriend is concerned about the lack of jobs in the UK, which he says is one of the reasons he would love to live in Canada. I'm worried about him making that country his home before he's given us a fair chance.
I know, if we're meant to be together then we eventually will be. It just breaks my heart to think of the amount of people who have commented on what a perfect couple we make (we really are), and that I'm sure we'd have got married one day if it wasn't for this. It's so unfair
Another problem is that I've never had many friends and I'm going to find it extremely lonely without him
Anyway, that's my introduction. I'm sorry it's so negative!
This forum seems like a great support network and I look forward to chatting to everyone
I live in England and I met my boyfriend in April this year, and knew all along that his family would be moving to Canada. This was expected to be in spring 2012. Only, on Wednesday, his mother found a loophole which means that they can go when they like. So I have to say goodbye to him on the 21st of this month.
Over the course of our relationship we've grown extremely attached and we are both very much in love with each other. The plan was that if things were still this good when it was time for him to go, he'd be staying. But of course, that was when we expected to have another several months together first. So he is going with his family until the migration stuff is all approved (in spring), and if things are still good between us he'll come back. So he'll still be making the decision when he said he would, it's just that things will be a lot more difficult because we can't be together until that point. It's my 21st in December and we would've done something really special, but now it's going to be a really sad day
The difficult thing is, as he has the chance to live there forever, I'm terrified he won't come back. His mother is very controlling over him and I worry sick what a few months with her and away from me will do to us. It makes it even more frustrating that if he was just a few months older (making him 22), he wouldn't have even been allowed to go as a dependent in the first place. My boyfriend is concerned about the lack of jobs in the UK, which he says is one of the reasons he would love to live in Canada. I'm worried about him making that country his home before he's given us a fair chance.
I know, if we're meant to be together then we eventually will be. It just breaks my heart to think of the amount of people who have commented on what a perfect couple we make (we really are), and that I'm sure we'd have got married one day if it wasn't for this. It's so unfair
Another problem is that I've never had many friends and I'm going to find it extremely lonely without him
Anyway, that's my introduction. I'm sorry it's so negative!
This forum seems like a great support network and I look forward to chatting to everyone
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