Rough Situation

[Reuschel]

My SO and I were CD for 2 years before we headed off to school when I decided to go 1,000 miles away from home (although my parents did push pretty hard). We have been LD for 4 months and things have been pretty hard but for the most part we have been good. However, today she told me she missed me and was sad. As normal in a LDR so I told her how much I care about her and that I'll see her in 7 days. She responded with one word "Yeah." This made me almost sick to my stomach and I told her that we were going to have a great time together for Christmas Vacation. She responded with "Yeah but then after that you will just leave again." I cried to call her to console her but she texted me saying she really didn't want to talk. She knows that I'll be transferring schools because problems I've been having here and that I will essentially close the distance in 5 months. I just really don't know what to do right now. I need to study for finals but now I feel sick and I just want her here to hug her.

[elizabethjp2010]

This happens to alot/ most high school couples

your first year of college you both will change alot, only a few can make it through it. Not saying you cant! if you can more power to you, but youre not alone in this.

Even though you love each other you start to grow and grow apart, which really sucks. As someone who is with her high school sweetheart i can tell you from experience, its hard being in a relationship and being far, and experiencing new things with out your SO to help. You have to work 2 times harder than you had to in high school.



also you have to give her a break, she is nervous for finals too. you need to think about that, yall are both stressed, you are both over reacting alittle with finals

[Brieasaurus]

It sounds like she's just having one of those days. Like she said, she woke up just missing you and even though you are coming to see her soon, she knows how hard it'll be for you to leave again after that. I'm sure you've experienced those days where everything reminds you of her and that you want nothing more to be there. I imagine that's how she is feeling, and nothing more than that. With that said, I don't really think that you two have all of a sudden grown apart. Just remind her that you two are going to have however long to be together for your visit, that it'll be a CDR soon enough and that you love her. Good luck on your finals and situation!

[Reuschel]

Thanks to both of your for your input. I really appreciated it. I ended up calling my mom since I hadn't talked to her in awhile but I know this isn't exactly what she wanted to her. She was very encouraging and told me the same you thing pretty much said Brieasaurus. She told me to give her some space and just let her do her thing for awhile which was no problem because I had a lot of studying to get done. I left her alone for about two hours and then she called me. Things seemed to have turned around so I'm thankful for that.

[Engel]

Everybody has bad days. Today, I was really nervous about last minute things to solve, and was jumpy and on edge, and my SO called me in Brazil to calm me down, I barely talked with him. sometimes all we need is some alone time to calm down on our own.


Best of luck.

[ushiwakafox]

I remember I use to get like that A LOT! We're CD now and I still get that way sometimes lol.

[efish1042]

I get like this frequently. Right now, even! You have to realize that women tend to brood and dwell over things way too much and there's nothing that can be done about it. You can try to soothe her, but in the end the only person who can help her out of that rut is her. When I get like that, I brood and get tired and irritable and immediately whatever I was working on I leave halfway through because I can't focus. I usually wake up the next morning feeling much better tho. Also, part of it may be hormones. I get sooo broody when I'm hormonal. Relax. Do your work. If you fail because you're worried about her she will hate herself. Just keep reminding her that you miss her and will see her soon. My SO and I tend to keep a countdown going when we have like < 20 days. Good luck on exams!

[Reuschel]

I mean I have these days too so I don't blame her. It was just so sudden and I was stressed so it hit hard. All I know is that I'll see her in a week and I can't wait.

[Kristin91]

I go through periods where I will feel like this for a few days, and feel totally hopeless because I know right after break my SO and I are going to be long distance again. The only thing you can really do is be there for her, show your support, and give her a great big hug when you do see her! She'll get through it, I promise!

[Bethypoo]

Just give her some space. It is hard to completely change the way you work in a relationship.

Just keep telling her how much you miss her and want to see her and remind her that there are only a few days left until you can hold her. She will come around. It is just hard, for you too, but you just have to be there and give her some time.

[Ms.Justine]

I think a lot of what I am going to say has been said earlier anyway here goes...I think this sort of thing happens to everyone we all have bad days and days where we feel utterly powerless and weak. Perhaps just send her a text or leave her a voicemail letting her know everything is going to be okay, and every day apart is another day closer. You guys will have to stay strong and truck through the remainder of your LDR but let me tell you it is completely worth it! Good luck and I hope this helped.

[Reuschel]

Thanks to everyone for their info. She seems to have been okay for the past few days so I'm hoping she is out of her rut even though she is getting stressed again for her finals. I'll be home in 5 days for a whole month so hopefully things go as planned.