He doesn't talk! Like... we hardly have any conversations anymore. The silence is killing me. If I try to strike up a conversation he gives a short answer or just a face. How do I get him to talk more?
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My SO does this too at times. You pretty much just have to ask him why he responds the way he does. Is there something wrong? does he just not like texting? is he busy? I know it's hard to say communication is the key when he won't talk but it's still the key. So, tell him you need to have a conversation with him, and you need serious answers. Then go from there I guess. -
In my condition, that's what we called "silent mood".
My man does that once in a while and when he is in that condition, nothing I could do to make him talk because he will only give a short reply. My suggestion is to not force him to have a conversation with you because it can end with him feeling annoyed or with you feeling that you are being ignored by your lover.
But if it goes over and over again, then just ask him what happened or ask him about his day or whatever. Do your best and making him talk
Good luck!
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I talked to him about it this morning. He asked why I was going to bed early and I told him that I felt like I was intruding on whatever he was doing so I would just talk to him later. He then said he felt bad for making me feel that way and that he was sorry he wasn't as engaging as he should be. I told him I didn't want his apology I just wanted to be able to talk to him, hold a conversation with him and he says that he'll do that. So far, it has been a little better. He is a rather quiet person through texting, IMing and all that, but you get him on cam and he's crazy. Now I want to try and get that crazy Sam from cam into all our conversations, even off cam.
Thank you both for your input. It's nice to know he's not the only one that gets like this at times.Comment
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Sometimes my SO does that, too. It's not all the time, but he'll respond with one word texts or will take a half hour per text to respond. He is just busy with schoolwork most of the time, and he apologizes for it. I understand, and I've gotten used to it. At first, I thought he wasn't interested in what I had to say, but he reassured me in the past he is, but he's just busy and he feels bad because he wants to talk to me and doesn't want to half-ass responses, but sometimes he just can't really chat.
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My SO is a motor mouth on cam and the phone, but in text/chat she is short to the point of frustration. I'll type four sentence paragraph's and I'll get o.o for "I read it." but no input. *Falls over in frustration* If I don't pose my chat in an open question format that doesn't allow for yes or no or *nods* or "mmhmm" I'll get that most of the time. She's freaking smart, witty, and quick to catch on, but she's terrible at contributing to chat conversations by reading the context of the subject and adding to it.Comment
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Pretty much this ^^. Tell him it bugs you and that if he doesn't want to talk then let you know. Because by the way he is acting, makes you feel like maybe he doesnt. Some men are just quiet, especially on the phone. But that doesn't mean it is an excuse. Communication is key and you need to work with what you have.Originally posted by squirrelz15 View Post
but just ask him/talk to him. Maybe he doesn't even realize it.Got together Jan 3, 2011~ Closed the Distance March 23, 2012~ Living Together Since June 19 2012~ Future TBD......
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Talk to him about it - let him know how it makes you feel and ask him why he does that. He'll know how your feeling and that you're upset and you'll have a direct reason as to why he is doing it. Communication is key guys remember that TALK TALK TALK
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Ha. My SO has his very talkative and very quiet days ... I used to go crazy every time he went quiet and I kept texting, ringing etc. getting more and more frustrated. We then talked, seems he just needs his days off sometimes, but it doesn't particularly mean he forgets about me or something. 4 years in I learned to understand and tolerate this and now whenever he's in his quiet days I just wait.
So yeah, talk to him about it, try to understand and then move from there.
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