Just need to let it out...

[rcknmommy]

I've been dating this guy.. well honestly not even a week yet but I'm really falling for him. We've liked each other for awhile, but just now got together. That's not the point of this though, I was bored and decided to check out his Tumblr and stumbled upon SO many posts about his ex. Now I know they are over and I know he's with me now but reading how much he loved her, and how he planned to spend the rest of his life with her just... sucks. He constantly mentioned how amazing and perfect she was. I can't help but wonder... will he ever love me like that? Will I ever measure up to her? She lived in the same town with him so... Ugh.. I hate that I think these things, I guess it's just me and my insecurities. Anyways, I just kind of wanted to let that out.

♥ Thanks for giving me a spot to do that.

[CynicalQuixotic]

Stop. Stop reading those posts, do not pass go, do not collect $200. They were written in the past when he was in a completely different mindset than he is now. He's chosen to be with you. Reading these posts is masochistic. Don't do it.

[rcknmommy]

I have stopped. It was hard to not click the next button but I didn't. I just closed the page and came here to vent a little.

[squirrelz15]

Good job stopping reading. He's with you, not her. Don't worry (and yes, I know that's easier said than done, I'm guilty too lol). Good luck in your new relationship

[xbriellex]

My bf has been in a relationship before me. I saw how much he loved his ex because he talks to me about her. And witnessing that gives me the confidence that based on how he loved his ex, it will be how much he loves me too. And it shows.

[Alemap]

Here's a postcard from the other side, that might help you get perspective: I loved my ex tremendously, and talked about it a lot to anyone who'd listen. I never thought I could love anyone more. When he turned out to be not the man I'd thought, after a year together, it rocked my world. I was so heartbroken and disappointed that I questioned my faith in him, in love as a concept, in people, in myself. I was convinced I'd never love again, and more, that I didn't want to.
To my total but delighted surprise, it turned out I was wrong; my passion for my current beau is an entire galaxy above what I felt for my ex. It took him a while to convince me to take a chance on him, but I fell for him like a tonne of bricks, and have now been dating him long enough to see that, while he is a flawed and imperfect human being, he's far kinder and less selfish than my ex, and just generally a more functional human being; not only do I have a connection with him like I've never known, chemically, but he is clearly a far better partner for me. Even though at the time, when I was in love with my ex, I couldn't imagine anyone ever living up to him, I now see that not only was he no good for me, but my current beau is a huge trade-up.
Something to think about.