Whats really considered long distance?

[elizabethjp2010]

whose idea of long-distance is out of state and, of course, out of the country. Someone could be at the top of the state and their partner at the bottom of it and I still would not consider that long-distance. Why? I'm not really sure. I suppose I feel that it's because even if they can't meet each other next door and/or at the drop of a hat, meeting someone who is in state is still more doable than meeting someone who's out of it. Travel is more frequent and less costly, and there are oftentimes more options. To me, being long-distance means not having those conveniences.
Also, I agree that LFAD is here for support regardless of distance.

^^ that isnt always true, texas is a HUGE state and takes just as long to drive el paso to las vegas as it does to drive el passo to houston (over 12 hours!)
so yeah if its a small state i can understand your statement, but NOT all states are small.

[crystaldragonix]

thanks everybody. I see what you mean. I totally agree that it depends on the situation. I could live 1000 miles away and be a billionaire and visit my bf everyday...or I could live 5 miles away and don't have any transportation and only see him once a month. It all depends. Even sometimes when I'm at home he works 24/7 so I still don't see him but once a week so if feels long distance even though he's less than 30mins away.

[Tabitha]

Here in Atlanta if two people live on opposite sides of the same city it could be a 45 minute commute. We have an apartment together now. but when we were LD we were 500 miles apart which is still small compared to many here.

That being said, if you feel that it's LD, then obviously it's harder than being able to see each other every day.

[efish1042]

Personally, I don't think the distance matters as much as the time apart and the ability to see each other. I think if your SO can't get to you in a reasonable amount of time when needed, such as emergencies or total meltdowns, then it is probably LD.
The distance doesn't matter as much. There's not a huge difference between 200 and 2000 miles in that neither of them can get to you relatively easily or in a timely manner, though one travel distance is definitely easier than the other.
I think what really matters is the time apart. A rich man may be able to fly home to see his wife every few days from across the country and a poor man may not be able to get to his gf across the county but once a month.
My mom saw my dad (AR to AK -3000 mi) three times in 4 months before they married and that may be more than I'm going to get to see my SO while living in the same state -500 mi.
So if you feel the distance to be a defining factor of the relationship, then sure. Call it LD. Just remember that misery loves company and the tension can get to us, so don't be surprised if some people get jealous of a 45 min drive vs. a 20 hour flight. I'm 500 mi and 7 hour drive, but that's nothing to those with 5000 mi and 14 hour flight. We all have some sympathy for some and jealousy for others here, I think.