Christmas Cards from a gf is strange?

[rubydissolution]

Um, to clear things up I didn't send him a Christmas card. He celebrates winter solstice, so i sent him a general happy holidays card that i signed happy winter solstice. It had no mention or pictures of Christmas, just a winter scene with a cardinal. I wouldn't force my beliefs on him. His family does celebrate Christmas, he doesn't. I don't know how it came across that i sent him a Christmas card. I send him a Winter Solstice gift that he opens at the appropriate time and I open the Christmas gifts he sends me.

As for this situation, I'm not going to send a card and i'm not going to worry about it anymore. As he said last night when I discussed this with him, when I move to him they aren't going to be a big part of our lives because they aren't close. We just settled that our families are extremely different. I'm very close with mine, and they willingly accept my boyfriends and treat them like family. His will not treat me in the realm of family until I actually am. Apparently they only way they see appropriate as getting to know them is in person, so that will have to suffice. He said, that me and him are in a relationship not his parents. So I will have to take him at that and believe that if they said break up with her he would defend me like he did when they said my solstice present was an attempt to buy his affection.

Thnx for the advice everyone.

[Jgui]

I don't see how it would be "weird" or "trying to hard" for doing a nice gusture. Did he explain why he feel that way? Shouldn't he be happy you're trying to come to good terms with his mom since you say you both don't get along well?

My SO's parents got me something for Christmas and I've never met them before. I feel bad I'm not returning the favor because I feel weird even had received something. Though I am flattered and happy they thought of me.

Talk to your SO and ask him why he feels the way he does.