Hi guys! I've been a little quiet lately except for the odd post, but I finally feel okay to give you guys an update on my life now it's been a couple months since my break up!
My super duper awesome and lovely Canadian love and I decided to call things off. Well, technically I did, but he agreed so it was a mutual decision really. I was preparing to move there on a working holiday visa in April 2012 when I started to be really realistic about what it was going to be like. He is in a band, who are pretty famous in the metal scene, and that took up basically *all* his free time. He also was working in an extremely stressful, but well-paid, job that was evening/nights. The reality was, if I moved there, we'd hardly see each other PLUS he is touring and travelling for good chunks of the year. All in all, it was enough to make me decide the distance was, in this situation, sadly enough of a factor to warrant ending the relationship. There were some other things too, but that was the main thing. How sad is that, even after knowing how much distance CAN be overcome just by being on this forum, I am one of the ones who lets it win? Ah well. Sometimes it does. I don't regret making that call despite how bitter it seemed at the time.
We had the most intensely emotional and gut wrenching conversation where we said goodbye. We promised never to cut each other out of our lives, even if we never spoke again. He performed at a big international fest in Texas a couple weeks ago and his fame has increased tremendously, and amongst all this attention, he called me after he was finished on stage. This was the first conversation we had since the breakup and it was so lovely to talk to him again, even if a little sad. He says that despite everything that happened with us, I am the only person he can talk to a lot of the time, and he knows I'll be one of those friends who never gives up on him and he really appreciated that. We've been talking every day since then and he's met a new girl and we talk about her sometimes, and it's actually quite nice to hear him happy and excited about her! I definitely still have feelings for him, as he does for me, but they are only positive ones and they are fading and being replaced with simple affection/friendship ones which is good.
So, even though the relationship is over, I learnt so much from this amazing man, and I think our friendship will last a lot longer than our romance ever did. I like that.
So yep! I am here, and I'm not leaving! Though I think this will be my last LDR, haha! (Unless I meet another lovely international man... wink)
My super duper awesome and lovely Canadian love and I decided to call things off. Well, technically I did, but he agreed so it was a mutual decision really. I was preparing to move there on a working holiday visa in April 2012 when I started to be really realistic about what it was going to be like. He is in a band, who are pretty famous in the metal scene, and that took up basically *all* his free time. He also was working in an extremely stressful, but well-paid, job that was evening/nights. The reality was, if I moved there, we'd hardly see each other PLUS he is touring and travelling for good chunks of the year. All in all, it was enough to make me decide the distance was, in this situation, sadly enough of a factor to warrant ending the relationship. There were some other things too, but that was the main thing. How sad is that, even after knowing how much distance CAN be overcome just by being on this forum, I am one of the ones who lets it win? Ah well. Sometimes it does. I don't regret making that call despite how bitter it seemed at the time.
We had the most intensely emotional and gut wrenching conversation where we said goodbye. We promised never to cut each other out of our lives, even if we never spoke again. He performed at a big international fest in Texas a couple weeks ago and his fame has increased tremendously, and amongst all this attention, he called me after he was finished on stage. This was the first conversation we had since the breakup and it was so lovely to talk to him again, even if a little sad. He says that despite everything that happened with us, I am the only person he can talk to a lot of the time, and he knows I'll be one of those friends who never gives up on him and he really appreciated that. We've been talking every day since then and he's met a new girl and we talk about her sometimes, and it's actually quite nice to hear him happy and excited about her! I definitely still have feelings for him, as he does for me, but they are only positive ones and they are fading and being replaced with simple affection/friendship ones which is good.
So, even though the relationship is over, I learnt so much from this amazing man, and I think our friendship will last a lot longer than our romance ever did. I like that.
So yep! I am here, and I'm not leaving! Though I think this will be my last LDR, haha! (Unless I meet another lovely international man... wink)
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