getting nervous...

[Dar917]

So I go to meet my bf for the first time in 8 days. The thing is, he just got a better job offer than where he's at now; the original plan was for him to have the whole week off. But if he takes this new job he'll most likely have to work at least some of the time while I'm there. He might not even be able to pick me up at the airport, so his mother would do it instead.

I understand things happen and often at the worst possible times and all, but I can't help feeling bummed. Worst case scenario he'll have to work the whole time and I won't even get to see him much or do very much together.

And what am I supposed to do with myself if I have to sit at his house for hours waiting for him to get home from work??

Gah.

[anlgp]

I know it's not exactly what you wanted, but try to think positive. You get to see each other even for a short bit of time

[Brieasaurus]

That's definitely a bummer. But hey, you can't think about the worst case scenario. I know it might seem easier to think that way just to prepare yourself to not be bummed out when it happens, but chances are that he'll make time to spend with you. Here are a few things to think about doing while he is at work: maybe have him prepare a list of things around town to see/are special to him that his friends/mother/anyone close to him can show you, bond with his family, or you can surf LFAD haha. My best advice though- don't go into the visit thinking negatively. After all, if he does spend a large amount of time at work, then you can always request another visit soon as a "replacement" visit if that makes sense.

[rubydissolution]

Well both times I've gone to see my SO and when I go see him in two weeks he will be working while i'm there. We stayed up really late, so I slept and then I played on his computer til he got home. I socialized with his roommates and took the train to see him at work once. It wasn't so bad. This time I'll have my laptop to occupy my time. Don't worry too much, you get to see him right?

[13000km]

Last year I visited my boyfriend for three weeks in December. Being a server, he kept getting called in to work, especially during the holiday season. He worked up to 10 hours a day because so many of the other servers were out of town. What did I do? I hung out with his sister, and her dog, and sometimes with his mom. I bundled up and went for walks with the dog. I stayed in and watched The Last Airbender. I told my friends how amazing it was to finally be with him. When I came here in the summer and didn't have any friends of my own I'd get him to drop me off at the mall or a bookstore. I've watched movies on my own, spent hours in a bookstore...The important thing is that you don't just sit there and wait for him to get off work. Go out and do something, or stay in and watch one of his favourite TV shows, play his favourite video games, etc.

What to do with him during your limited time together? Spend time together. I feel that because of the distance, I was happy to just BE with him. I don't have to do anything, I don't even have to talk. Just being in his arms was more than I could ask for. If you want to make things special, make pancakes or any simple meal together.

Being there, and not seeing him much, is a lot better than not being there at all. At least he gets to come home to you. (:

[Dar917]

Those are all good ideas; thanks!

I guess I'm just feeling sorry for myself. I don't mean to sound so negative, I just have really bad luck I trusted people and ended up getting hurt before. Sooner or later something good has to happen, right?

[squirrelz15]

Yes, something good will happen, and it's disappointing that you may not have as much time, but at least you'll get to see him some and hopefully sleep in his arms. You gotta take the small moments.

[Alemap]

Take the opportunity to explore a new place, playing tourist free and unfettered, during the day, and then snuggle with your sweetie in the evenings!

[Mara]

It won't be so bad. My SO usually has to work on our visits. I spend most of my time on my laptop or watching tv or just really anything I'd do at my own home until he gets off from work. It isn't as much time as we'd have if he didn't have to work, but it's great just to be able to see him you know?

I hope you have a lovely first meeting.

[13000km]

Those are all good ideas; thanks!

I guess I'm just feeling sorry for myself. I don't mean to sound so negative, I just have really bad luck I trusted people and ended up getting hurt before. Sooner or later something good has to happen, right?

Trust me, I sounded like that when I found out he had to work so much too. It is important though, that you don't act on these feelings, so you don't end up having an awful time there.

[Dar917]

Update: he didn't take the job because he decided to go to school instead, which means he will have my whole visit off. YAY!!! I'm so happy!!

[Alemap]

Yay indeed!