So its a bit of a long story. I met this girl from one of the bartenders that worked at my favorite bars it was her older sister. We went out to dinner one night and drinks the other and just started always hanging out. This was back in july. Her younger sister had plans to move to florida and her older sister went along and they both left in november. We had kept in contact everyday and texted probably more then any highschool kid does. I went down for christmas and i got pretty sick before i went down so i was a party pooper and obviously it wasnt such a great time as she said it wasnt what she expected. When she went to drop me off at the airport she pretty much stated she didnt want to do the long distance anymore but then she said idk i have to think about it. Anyways sunday she called it off completley saying she doesnt want a long distance and she feels we grew apart and that it would have been different if she was still closer. I live in MA and shes in Florida. Which by the way when she lived up here she was still a good 70 miles away. Anyways on sunday i was obviously stating how strong my feelings where for her but that didnt go anywhere. Anyways after she said good night and i did i figured i wont talk to her anymore because it looks like its over. Wednesday i got a text message from her asking me if i was still sick etc and i responded and then i was the last one to respond before she fell asleep and i haven't heard from her since. Im a bit confused if she is missing me or what is going on, she clearly knows im not friends or talk with any of my ex's as this topic came up a couple times. One of her last christmas gifts that i ordered for her comes tomorrow from zales. What should i do? remain in contact? hope she changes her mind or just stay in contact and if she ever comes back ill make plans to reunite for a drink or something?
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At this point I would just leave it be. She called it off. Long distance isn't for everyone, and it doesn't sound like it's something she can handle. I guess I wouldn't talk to her for a while, especially if you aren't going to be friends with her. She probably misses you, but at the same time she's probably thinking she can't handle the distance so there isn't a point in changing her mind. I know she broke it off with you after you were sick but I have a feeling that this had been something that was on her mind for a while. You can't live your life hoping she will change her mind. She might, she might not. If she does, you can cross that bridge when you come to it. I would focus on yourself for now though, and what you need to heal. Break ups are never easy. -
yes i noticed that the first couple days i was fine she was good then once i started becoming sick and just not in the mood to do anything since i was pretty sick she just sorta changed and wouldn't really talk. it was really after christmas night that she changed and i noticed it. the only thing is i had ordered her diamond stud earrings for her to wear to work and i never cancelled them after i came back because well i was just so sad and then sunday she kept stressing that we grew apart and didn't want to do the long distance anymore.Comment
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Well here's an update. before i left the 21st to go to Florida i had applied at a major dealership down there. i was hoping to hear from them before or when i was down there but i got a call Saturday about having a phone interview this week. i had mentioned it to her before i went on vacation but didn't really tell her i applied i figured it would be a surprise. it is a good position and it'll get me out of my current work at a small dealership and i hate the cold. I'm weighing the options of mentioning it to her tonight?????Comment
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I agree with squirrelz, let it be if she called it off. As for the job, if it's what YOU want to make YOU happy for YOU then go for it. If you're looking for a way out of where you are now, that sounds like a pretty great opportunity. So if you DO take it, try not to push her into anything, because that will only make the situation worse. Assuming you get offered the job and decide to take it, talk to her about it when you get down there. If she's still not into it, find someone else who is.Comment
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