Does it get any easier?

[Razorbladekissed]

I mean, being away from them - your SO. I am constantly thinking about how badly I wish he was here, or I was there, or anywhere just together. I try to busy myself, and not think about it, but it just creeps its evil little self back in my head and i get emotional just wishing i could be in his arms. Please tell me it gets easier. I've never met him in person if that matters any.

[elizabethjp2010]

it doesnt. You will always think about them and miss them, Its hard, but your SO makes it worth it.

[loveknowsnodistance27]

Unfortunately, it never does get easier. Saying goodbye after each visit gets tougher every time, but in the end, it's totally worth it getting to see them. Definitely keeping busy is the best thing you can do. You will eventually get used to it and the pain doesn't hurt as much, but it never fully goes away. =[ Hang in there, you can do it! *hugs* This community is wonderful for anything you may need. Welcome to the forums.

[Razorbladekissed]

Thanks, I was here before but forgot all my info and stuff so, just made a new name. xD

I know it'll never go away, if it does then that would be bad for the relationship, but if it maybe just gets easier to handle?

[Katelyn]

I think eventually you accept it and things get easier. I mean I find now that I am not a totallll crazy mess when I leave my boyfriend and come back to school...but every once in a while misery pokes its little head out and I lose it haha. But, keeping yourself busy is so important! Things just get so much worse when you sit there and think about the situation!

[elizabethjp2010]

we all learn different ways of dealing.

[lademoiselle]

I think eventually you accept it and things get easier.

I agree. Of course some days are worse than others, but as the previous posters have said, keeping busy is one of the best things you can do to help yourself!

[Manoek]

"It doesn't get easier, you'll get stronger!"

That's actually what his sister said to me, I thought it was a great quote!

And what David and I alway say to each other, because we have know each other for 7 years now, but have been together for a couple of months:

"Nothing in life worth doing comes easy"

[WakeUpSusie]

My LDR is over (we closed the distance and are engaged and living together), but I always thought that saying goodbye never got easier. I always cried. Always.

BUT. I did find that besides that initial goodbye, returning to my life at school got significantly easier and easier as time went on. I loved my college and all of my friends there so much, so I was going back to a great place where I honestly didn't have much time to actively miss my SO.

[Kairi19]

I don't think the situation itself gets easier, more you learn to accept it and grow stronger. Goodbyes never get any easier unfortunately

[loveknowsnodistance27]

"It doesn't get easier, you'll get stronger!"

That's actually what his sister said to me, I thought it was a great quote!

And what David and I alway say to each other, because we have know each other for 7 years now, but have been together for a couple of months:

"Nothing in life worth doing comes easy"

THIS. My SO and I were best friends for 11 years before dating and now we've been together a year and a half almost. He told me at the airport on Sunday evening before I left "You are strong, I am strong. We are both strong. We've been apart longer than this before, we can do this!" He made me feel so much better because I know he has faith in us and I do too. Even though it may be difficult sometimes, it's totally worth it. Eventually you just get used to it and realize this is how it has to be.

[morven]

like everyone has already said it never gets easier but keep in mind that each day that passes brings u a day closer to meeting in person - im already counting down the days until i see my man again and he hasnt even left yet

[Sierra]

I think it gets easier for some people, but it's never gotten easier for me. It doesn't seem that hard for my boyfriend who is surrounded by friends and family and I'm largely isolated. For me the only thing that makes it easier is focusing on the next time we'll see each other and closing the distance.

[dukes2011]

Unfortunately saying goodbye gets harder for us every time, but we have both gotten better at coping. Like a lot of previous posters have said, keeping yourself busy helps. Also remember it's ok to cry because sometimes you just need to let it out. Remember that you're not weak for getting upset. I used to perceive it as weakness until Dan reminded me that there are many people who just can't do LDRs. The fact you and your SO can do it already proves how strong you are as individuals and a couple.

[meganpillow]

A lot of people here say it gets harder, but for me it got easier.
Yes, I miss him, but I know deep down that this is not permanent. I know that I must be patient and wait for the day that I close the distance.
When that day comes, I have improved my quality of life. I would have a education.
My Mom and Dad were in a long distance relationship for a year. My mom was in Poland, Dad in the United States. Communism just fell in Poland so it still was rough to have enough money to talk on the phone often and be able to send letters more frequently. Yep, no Skype! Neither of them had a computer!
Both my parents were just fine throughout the whole time.
They are still married till this day.