How to cope?

[AsianRawr!]

She's gone....she's actually gone. I was with her for 2 years and now....she's just gone. I just cried my heart out and I feel a little better but how can I cope with her leaving and learn on how to move on? I have to know....how? It just hurts so much

[snow_girl]

It will hurt for a while. Best thing to do is keep busy and cut all contact for min 3 months. It will give you both time to get over each other without that constant reminder.

[AsianRawr!]

It will hurt for a while. Best thing to do is keep busy and cut all contact for min 3 months. It will give you both time to get over each other without that constant reminder.

She had already cut all contact with me at the beginning of this month and I just now squeezed it out of her that she was leaving. The past week has been hell for me and now it just seems to have gotten worse. I will sadly admit that I don't feel that bad about the break up because for the past week I've been tortured with the no contact already. It just hurts to actually think that she wouldn't even tell me over the phone that it is over and has to be over a text message.

[Bethypoo]

Im sorry! Like any relationship it is going to take time to deal with and cope!

We are all here for you!

[AsianRawr!]

Blah! Two hours ago, she texted me and said and I quote from her "I'm sorry that we aren't together anymore but can we still be friends?". That just tore up my heart, it really did. She had it in her to ask me if we could still be friends not even a week after we broke up. And she was the one that forced me to break up with her. I would have loved to stay with her but she didn't feel it anymore. So I ask why, why did she ask such a thing... I told her straight up. "How can we be friends? It'd be awkward for me and to be honest, it would hurt. It would hurt a lot." She even told me "I understand" how could she understand that though? It was my heart that was broken and not hers. So how can she understand this? Her past boyfriend was just a jerk to her and just used her, so she broke it off with him. So I don't understand how she could understand this.

[goalie_girl34]

Dont beat yourself up, dont ask yourself why. Like the previous posters said cut all contact for three months or so. It seems like she may be wondering whether she made the right choice or she's desperately missing you. Both of you need time, you to sort out your feelings and move on, her to ponder her decision and accept the consequences. Who knows, things may change at the end or tihngs may stay the same and you will have the strength to accept it. Best of luck to you.

[Tooki]

If you two don't end up being together, I wouldn't try being friends with her.