Originally posted by Moon
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Some men just aren't that great at showing their romantic side from a distance, which is probably why it's so different when you're together in person. In the beginning, the guys do whatever they can to impress us, but it's not that sustainable in the long run, so it fades. I think sometimes women get too caught up in the "romance" aspect of the relationship, and forget about the casual, fun, sometimes boring, day to day reality that a relationship actually is. It's not totally our fault, it's the evil women's magazines that tell us that our weekends should be full of flowers and impulsive trips to Paris, and our nights brimming with passion and sickeningly sweet words, or else our guy doesn't love us and we should dump him 
I think we're taught to have very unrealistic expectations of men sometimes, unfortunately.
Is your SO around when you need him? Does he comfort you when necessary? How about if he's loyal and reliable? Do you enjoy the same things and have a blast when you're together? Those are the things you should focus more on, in my humble opinion, as those are things that will really make the relationship lasting and healthy. Talk is cheap, anyone can say words you want to hear, but actions are harder to fake.
That being said, there is definitely a time and place for the romantic stuff, and everyone is different on how that ends up. You have to find a place that's comfortable for BOTH of you, you a bit less and him a bit more.
I think we're taught to have very unrealistic expectations of men sometimes, unfortunately.Is your SO around when you need him? Does he comfort you when necessary? How about if he's loyal and reliable? Do you enjoy the same things and have a blast when you're together? Those are the things you should focus more on, in my humble opinion, as those are things that will really make the relationship lasting and healthy. Talk is cheap, anyone can say words you want to hear, but actions are harder to fake.
That being said, there is definitely a time and place for the romantic stuff, and everyone is different on how that ends up. You have to find a place that's comfortable for BOTH of you, you a bit less and him a bit more.
I don't ask for expensive presents or trips or anything material. I would just like him to pay more attention to some special occasiosn like my birthday or V-day. I mean to send a message is not that special,he almost do this every day. He calls himself creative and he said that he loves poetry.. em ok so how it comes that I've never seen some of these things??I don't expect him to do something crazy for me or tell me how much I mean to him every day, I just ask for little cute things he would do for me to show me that I'm in his heart. I get sad when I see what other couples do every day and he can't be like this one or two days in a year..and it doesn't matter if the honeymoon is over or not.
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