After closing the distance, who moves where?

[deecakkes]

My boyfriend lives in South Africa and I live in Canada. We both want to move to each other's countries when we close the distance. If you were in a LDR and already closed the gap, who moved where and why? If you haven't closed the distance, have you already decided how you'll close the distance?
I need some advice on how we're going to go about this...

[snow_girl]

There is already a few posts about this if you search.

https://members.lovingfromadistance....ighlight=moves

https://members.lovingfromadistance....you-are-moving

[Sierra]

My boyfriend and I live in the same country. I decided to move to him because there are better oppourtunities for me here

[deecakkes]

Oh, oops... Sorry!
And that's good, Sierra. I guess we'll still have to figure out some of the logistics.

[Lissy]

In my situation, my girlfriend will be moving to live with me, and we plan to get an apartment together (as I live with my parents). I'd be more than willing to move to be with her, but her moving just works better, since she'll be graduating from college and I'm still an undergrad, and she can attend my college for graduate school. It's really whatever works best with your circumstances, but that's how she and I have decided it.

[loveknowsnodistance27]

We decided I am going to move. I'm graduating with my associate's degree next May and my SO's college has a great ultrasound program, which is what I'm looking to pursue as a career. So, it makes the most sense for me to movie. Then, we will decide whether or not to move back to Long Island after graduation or wherever he/I get a job offer.

[Engel]

I moved to him, but Germany was ALWAYS, since i can remember one of the dream places i wanted to live. germany or england (france would be an option too, but thats it.). i remember saying that when i was as young as 5 or 6 years old! and here I am!

[dinorider88]

girlfriend is moving to me since my major (criminal justice) is useless outside the US

[magician13134]

I'll be finishing college first and since she's in our hometown doing undergrad and planning on grad school, I will most likely be moving back there. Just two more years

[lucybelle]

We both moved. He moved to me first, then I moved back to his country with him.

[Tooki]

I will probably move to her permanently. But I could see her living in Australia for 1 year or so before we make a permanent move.

[Bethypoo]

I think the best thing is to both be squared away in your own lives. Then look at it logically to see where the better opportunities are. If you wont be able to find a job in SA but he will in Canada then he should go to you. Or the same if the situation is vice versa. If things are about equal, well then see where things would be cheaper and weigh the pros and cons. Have you visited him there to see if you would like it? Or has he come to you?

My SO and I have not closed the distance but will be doing so at the end of March. I am done with school and thus getting out of this town and going home. So we planned on living together and then he goes into the military. After that we don't really know. But we go at it in steps. There is no reason to plan to far in advance because things change.

Good luck.

[princessmeg1328]

For us, it makes more sense for me to move to him. He's nine years older than me and already has a job, is buying a house, and pretty much settled where he is. Whereas I graduated from uni last May. I spent a great deal of time where he lives, and I don't have a permanent job here. Plus, I got my degree in education. It's a degree that can be used pretty much anywhere. For us, me moving works.

[Tooki]

And from what my South African friend has told me about SA; I wouldn't move there

[Yaaamiii]

Not entirely sure yet, but since I'll have graduated before him, I would love to do the grad school program at his current university. With that said, I think, if I am accepted into the program, that I'll be the one moving to him. Afterwards, however, neither of us know what we are going to do. There are no jobs for his degree in his city, so we'll probably both have to move after my (hopefully) grad school degree.