home, but don't get to see him as much as I'd like to..?

[maja]

I think this is more of a rant, but oh well, I feel like I have to get this off my chest..
I've been home for 4 days now and I stayed over at his on Saturday, sleeping in on Sunday and sleeping over again yesterday, of course he has to work and all, but I feel like I should get to see him more..or let me rephrase that, I feel like he should want to see me more.
He missed me a hell of a lot when I was gone, and now that I'm here it's like I'm being too clingy.
He doesn't ask me to come over everyday, like he normally would, so I do and he wants to see me like every other day.
I'm a bit hurt and disappointed... I'm leaving next week for 10 days, and then I'll be home for another 5 weeks, I'm worried this still won't change
I really need to see him and whenever we are together we have so much fun and it's just so nice
Maybe it's just me and I'm too demanding..but this just hurts. I don't want to confront him about it, afraid he might not want me or something

[maja]

oh, and I'm sorry I wasn't on here much lately, my sister visited me where I study and now I'm home, but I'll try to check in more often now

[dglynn77]

I'm sorry I don't have any profound advice... Just wanted to say I hope things get better!
Ranting can be good because you can say what you are thinking and sometimes that will just help you feel better or help you put the problem in perspective.

[lademoiselle]

First of all, it's good to see you back - I enjoy reading your posts on the forum I'm sure the way your SO is acting is nothing to do with you (although I know that's not much consolation). It's unfortunate that mundane matters have to be attended to even when we'd much rather be doing something else; I understand how you feel in the sense that there are times when my boyfriend is so preoccupied with work and suchlike that he's hardly available to chat. Of course it's worse for you, because it sounds like the same thing is happening to your SO while you're on a precious visit. Ugh!

My advice would be to try and make the most of every moment you do get to spend together, and perhaps have a word with him about how you feel. I daresay he's as fed up with the situation as you are, but if he's anything like my boyfriend, won't say anything about it because he doesn't feel there's anything he can do to change it, nor does he want to burden you with his own frustration. I know you're feeling rather put to the back burner at the moment but I can't imagine it's intentional. I do hope matters improve, and with any luck you'll next have the chance to see one another when things aren't as hectic for him... roll on the holidays, I say!

[princessmeg1328]

If you really feel like he's not paying enough attention to you, you're going to have to talk to him. Tell him how you're feeling. One of the great things about being in a LDR is that you have to actually communicate with your SO. I know that it sucks that he has to work while you're there, but you can't really change it. How do you know that he doesn't want to see you more? Has he actually said that? Maybe he's saying every other day because he works every other day and wants to see you on his days off. You just have to talk to him and figure out what's going on.

[Bethypoo]

Yes, it is good to see you back!

I get where you are coming from, but it isn't like he is CHOOSING not to see you. He works. You have to work to support yourself. I don't think you are being to demanding, I think the way you feel is normal. However, you just need to put it into perspective.

I hope it gets better!

[maja]

ahh thank you guys, I was just freaking out a little I think we have a good every 2 day sleeping over pattern which isn't so bad, considering I have all my friends to attend to as well
He asked me over yesterday and cooked for me and it was all really nice.
I think I was just a bit disappointed, because we used to spend weekends together, so we just lazed around in bed lots
Hope everyone is wellll

[dukes2011]

It's definitely normal to be disappointed if you don't see your SO as much as you'd like when you are home. I run into this all the time since when I'm home Dan is still 2 hours driving distance from my family's house. Also, when he visits me at school I am always working on something, at my internship for clinical hours, or in class. Sometimes I get frustrated since when I actually am in my apartment, he'll take out his stuff for work. Just talk to your SO whenever you feel that way and let him know you still understand he has obligations, but you'd like to see him as much as you can. I hope you had a great time with your sister and it's good to see you back!