Hey LFAD community, I'm Ed. I'm a 25 year old guy from CT. When I found this site through "100 things for LDR couples to do", I was pretty excited. I don't have a good support system here of people that think I'm not a complete idiot for doing this online thing *again.* So let me give you a little backstory and by the time I'm finished, I promise you'll grow to like that I'm a "wall of text" kinda guy.
When I was 19, I met a girl online... Unintentionally of course, as I wasn't one for *silly* LDRs. Being relatively new to love I general, I gave it a naive shot. A year later, we planned week stays in each others states and my eventual move to live with her. It was all great. I had a new better paying job, new friends, an upgraded life. Until 3 months in she cheated on me and slept with her tattoo artist. That was heart breaking, and after driving my firebird 1,200 miles back home at 90 mph with my tail between my legs to all the "I told you so's"( and my first speeding ticket), I swore to never do it again.
Fast forward 5 years and countless relationships of varying duration: I'm in love with my best friend. She lives in South Carolina.
I met her when I was 13 years old, goofing off in an AOL chatroom. Since that day, we never missed more than a few days communication (short of my stay with the other LDR). We've talked/texted/emailed each other through hard times, relationships and lonely nights until late last year we decided enough was enough. When I tried to enter a new relationship, a month ago because I felt she would never give in to my advances, she said we couldn't be friend's anymore. Maybe once a year to catch up. It hurt too much to watch me date another girl for her. If I had to choose between her and this new girl, it wasn't even a contest. I guess my relationship and her words were the breaking point. She asked me to be exclusive, I broke it off with the new girl(who was amazing and I'm sorry for hurting her) and it's now been 16 days exclusive and 8 days "Facebook official." I'm scared it'll end up like last time, but I've never loved another human being more. 12 years is a long time.
She wants to take the lovey stuff slow(the opposite of my *full throttle attitude), but we've already planned two week-long vacations and a tepid 3 day weekend. We even did a over the phone movie night (thanks 100 things) on sunday. The first time she called me "babe" in our lives was two days ago and while weird, was the most amazing feeling ever.
Wish me luck! I'm glad to be here amongst like-minded people. I hope to give back as much advice as I get.
-Ed
When I was 19, I met a girl online... Unintentionally of course, as I wasn't one for *silly* LDRs. Being relatively new to love I general, I gave it a naive shot. A year later, we planned week stays in each others states and my eventual move to live with her. It was all great. I had a new better paying job, new friends, an upgraded life. Until 3 months in she cheated on me and slept with her tattoo artist. That was heart breaking, and after driving my firebird 1,200 miles back home at 90 mph with my tail between my legs to all the "I told you so's"( and my first speeding ticket), I swore to never do it again.
Fast forward 5 years and countless relationships of varying duration: I'm in love with my best friend. She lives in South Carolina.
I met her when I was 13 years old, goofing off in an AOL chatroom. Since that day, we never missed more than a few days communication (short of my stay with the other LDR). We've talked/texted/emailed each other through hard times, relationships and lonely nights until late last year we decided enough was enough. When I tried to enter a new relationship, a month ago because I felt she would never give in to my advances, she said we couldn't be friend's anymore. Maybe once a year to catch up. It hurt too much to watch me date another girl for her. If I had to choose between her and this new girl, it wasn't even a contest. I guess my relationship and her words were the breaking point. She asked me to be exclusive, I broke it off with the new girl(who was amazing and I'm sorry for hurting her) and it's now been 16 days exclusive and 8 days "Facebook official." I'm scared it'll end up like last time, but I've never loved another human being more. 12 years is a long time.
She wants to take the lovey stuff slow(the opposite of my *full throttle attitude), but we've already planned two week-long vacations and a tepid 3 day weekend. We even did a over the phone movie night (thanks 100 things) on sunday. The first time she called me "babe" in our lives was two days ago and while weird, was the most amazing feeling ever.
Wish me luck! I'm glad to be here amongst like-minded people. I hope to give back as much advice as I get.
-Ed
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