How do you feel about your SO checking out other people?

[digitalfever]

I look at other men so why can't he look at other women? It doesn't really bother... other things make me jealous but simple looking is nothing cause at the end of the day it's me that he's with regardless of what he's looking at or thinking.

[floridaellen]

I guess I'm just weird, but I point out attractive women to my SO sometimes :P I'm like "I wish I had her body!" and he's like "I like yours better" so it works. We're human. We're sexual beings. He can look, just not touch.

[Manoek]

I always tell my SO that he can grow an appetite outside as long as he eats at home

And i Iove boys! Flirting is like a way of communication, for my SO as well by the way.. (with girls of course XD )

Of course I get jealous every once and awhile, he does too.. But I think a LITTLE bit of jealousy is healthy..

But I know that he will never do something to hurt me, he would take a bullet fo me.. So no, cheating he won't do

[Zapookie]

I don't know about when I'm not around, but it's natural for people to notice and look at beautiful things, so I don't really care if he's looking. I notice beautiful people all the time and even second glance but that doesn't mean I want to do dirty things to them, I'm just appreciating their beauty. I'm sure my SO is the same. I love that he only has eyes for me though when we're together. He makes me feel very special

[leonsfangirl]

Nearly everybody window shops.
My SO didn't do it around me and i didnt do it around him, too busy looking at each other i guess
When we're on our own, i guess he looks and It doesnt bother me. I look too but nothing more than a "ohhh he's do-able" in my head before i move along.

[kteire]

I've only ever noticed my SO checking out another girl once, and it doesn't really bother me. He's not interested in them, just like I'm not interested in the guys I innocently check out. I don't think it's part of being a guy, it's part of being human and having normal human attraction

[Sora1101]

I think I'd be a bit peeved if my SO was honestly looking at other girls, I don't mind the occasional glance, I mean it's almost a subconscious thing for a guy, but if he continued to look past a couple of seconds I would feel a bit hurt, I mean what's wrong with looking at me? That and with my self esteem issues I'd probably feel kinda like I'm not as good looking as the person he's checking out.

[Deleted]

I barely notice when he does it, I do feel a little jealousy but it goes off seconds later. What does kind of irk me a little is that he MUST stare for hours at naked women for his drawing classes! I know he does it all professionaly but it's still kind of...well, weird :P

[fitfilipina]

Totally understand the whole double standard with this now, whoever mentioned it! Just because it's "hard-wired" for guys (which probably means its in there for girls too) doesn't make it any more acceptable, if that's how you see it as.

[efish1042]

We check out people together of both genders... it's a nice laugh for us, I guess. If he honestly was checking someone out, I would probably be a little jealous, but we are both flirts anyway and we knew that going into this relationship soo... it just isn't really a problem for us

[Moon]

To me, a truly beautiful person is kind of like fine art. If you see a Monet, Picasso, Dali, whatever, you're gonna notice it, no big deal. That doesn't mean I prefer that Dali to the pictures my 6 year old nephew makes for me (Especially the one that says "Dear Aunt Jen, You stink! Love Jack" ). Jack doesn't mind if I take a trip to the art museum, just like I don't mind if my guy notices the abundance of beautiful, skinny blonds he's surrounded by in Finland I might be the equivalent of Jack's pictures, but my guy loves me.

Anyway, he claims he doesn't really notice much or pay attention He's super respectful and would never do it in front of me, but if he did and I caught him, I'd laugh and tease him mercilessly!

I notice beautiful men all of the time, it's nice eye candy, but they aren't my Raine, so even though they register in my head, that's about it.

[Imhereforyou]

he tends not to second glance

[nicole]

I wouldn't like him doing it when I'm around, but I'm sure he looks sometimes Probably just a glance and forgets about it mind. He has a (married) work colleague who checks out the waitresses etc when they go out for lunch and my SO said he's told him off for being so disgusting and rude to his wife lol I think his work colleague goes too far though, as he does with everything, or else my SO wouldn't really call him out on it. He would get jealous of me looking- he HATES my celebrity crush with a passion now! haha. But I don't really notice people on the street or whatever,I walk along in a day dream state most of the time and don't look

I think my SO does however, get a kick from people checking ME out. I am oblivious to it happening (years of being the ugly ducking, not used to being a swan ), but he'll be like "Herman was checking out your legs the whole time" with this tone of pride in his voice

[Malaga]

It's not something he does often, but I've noticed him check out other girls once or twice. Just a quick glance. I understand it's normal, though it's still not nice to see. If he were to stare or comment on another girl, that would make me upset. But I understand he's just wired to glance. I'm not but that doesn't mean my way is the only acceptable way.

Besides, I've often felt 'glanced at' by guys passing by with their girlfriends, as I'm sure all of us here have. We've been that 'other girl'. And usually those aren't leering stares, just a guy who looks at you and goes on. I'm tall so I stick out and people instinctively look at me. So when I put myself in that situation, it's easier to accept that a glance doesn't have to mean automatic sexual attraction or thoughts, or anything like that.

[Rugger]

I don't mind if he checks out girls when I'm not there, but you bet your ass he best not be breaking his neck when he's with me.

He's only done it once. We were in vacation in Daytona and him and his buddies were sitting on the deck and us girls were at the pool. This blonde in a bikini walked by . All the guys broke their necks trying to get a look. The girlfriends were not amused, do we gave them a taste on their own medicine by hitting the beach in our bikinis and did some looking and flaunting of our own. Now they understood why we were upset and their eyes remained in their heads for the rest of th trip.

I don't have a problem with a covert glance but full on turning upsets me