I can't actually believe I'm writing this, but I really feel like I'm in this alone. I'll give you some background so you can understand the issue at hand.
He surprised me with a visit for Valentine's Day two weeks ago. We had a great time together, amazing actually because it was the first time we were together in person since October. Right now he lives in Memphis and I go to school in Indiana, but he is likely moving to California soon to get his Bachelor's in Culinary Arts. He's originally from there and I fully support him following his dreams, even if they don't include me. Every time I've told him that, he's let me know that I am a part of his dreams, so they wouldn't be complete without me. But he expressed to me that he's scared that when he makes the move, we won't talk because he'll probably be working in addition to going to school. I think that's a bit drastic, but we agreed that we would work it out.
Fast forward to tonight, Sunday really. Since he left for Memphis a week and a half ago, he's made little to no time for us to talk. He has much more on his plate than I do, so I've been trying to let him determine when he has time to talk and call me when he can. Tonight he tells me that he wishes our relationship was easier. He wasn't talking about distance, but everything, our conversations, how long we talk, etc. He also let me know he was having second thought, but that at the same time he really wanted to make things work.
He says more than anything he feels our conversations have changed drastically these last few weeks, but a lot of that is because he hasn't set a schedule for when he can or can't talk. I asked him if it would be too much for us to sit down and go over our schedules together to figure out that best time for us to communicate, over the phone of course. He said that it wouldn't. I suggested Monday as a day and asked him for a time and he proceeded to tell me everything he's doing for the day. He didn't give a time, but I asked what time I was waking up. I told him 10:30, which is 9:30 his time and he told me if he was awake at that time he would call me.
Honestly, I'm to the point where if he doesn't call me in the morning, or at least make an effort to make a schedule so we know for sure when we can and can't talk, I don't know if I can do this any more. I understand that he's scared, that a part of him is doubting whether or not we'll last, but you can't let that overshadow the love and faith you have in a relationship. I love him unconditionally and am willing to fight to make our relationship work, but if he doesn't respond in the same way, I think I'm done.
Advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading.
He surprised me with a visit for Valentine's Day two weeks ago. We had a great time together, amazing actually because it was the first time we were together in person since October. Right now he lives in Memphis and I go to school in Indiana, but he is likely moving to California soon to get his Bachelor's in Culinary Arts. He's originally from there and I fully support him following his dreams, even if they don't include me. Every time I've told him that, he's let me know that I am a part of his dreams, so they wouldn't be complete without me. But he expressed to me that he's scared that when he makes the move, we won't talk because he'll probably be working in addition to going to school. I think that's a bit drastic, but we agreed that we would work it out.
Fast forward to tonight, Sunday really. Since he left for Memphis a week and a half ago, he's made little to no time for us to talk. He has much more on his plate than I do, so I've been trying to let him determine when he has time to talk and call me when he can. Tonight he tells me that he wishes our relationship was easier. He wasn't talking about distance, but everything, our conversations, how long we talk, etc. He also let me know he was having second thought, but that at the same time he really wanted to make things work.
He says more than anything he feels our conversations have changed drastically these last few weeks, but a lot of that is because he hasn't set a schedule for when he can or can't talk. I asked him if it would be too much for us to sit down and go over our schedules together to figure out that best time for us to communicate, over the phone of course. He said that it wouldn't. I suggested Monday as a day and asked him for a time and he proceeded to tell me everything he's doing for the day. He didn't give a time, but I asked what time I was waking up. I told him 10:30, which is 9:30 his time and he told me if he was awake at that time he would call me.
Honestly, I'm to the point where if he doesn't call me in the morning, or at least make an effort to make a schedule so we know for sure when we can and can't talk, I don't know if I can do this any more. I understand that he's scared, that a part of him is doubting whether or not we'll last, but you can't let that overshadow the love and faith you have in a relationship. I love him unconditionally and am willing to fight to make our relationship work, but if he doesn't respond in the same way, I think I'm done.
Advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading.
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