I need help on making a decision, feel a little confused.

[djs1345]

Hey everybody, My name is Dominic and I'm 15 years old and I am having a little trouble with something.

Okay, about two weeks ago I met a girl name Courtney (15) on PlayStation Home who really likes me. After we met I sent her a friend request and started to chat with her. We had exchange pictures so we can know what each other look like, by the way she lives in Toronto, Canada, and I live in New Jersey.

So a couple of days went by and I started to develop feelings to her. So i think about asking her out to be girlfriend, but the only problem is that I don't want to come across a girl here in New Jersey who I like also, and miss the opportunity. I am not a cheater of any form. Please help.

By the way my parents don't know about this yet. And we plan to meet in New York City, when we get older.

[efish1042]

I started my relationships here and then went LDR after about 5 months. So I can't really sympathize fully with the whole "we met online" thing.
If I were there to sit down with you and tell you in person, I won't lie, I would probably tell you not to. LDRs are very trying on both parties, quite especially when you're younger and have less access to your SO via internet, transportation, what have you. Also there are several social stigmas that come with teenage dating anyway. Your parents, your friends, most people around you probably wont understand whether they support you or not.
Considering you've only known her a few weeks and you are merely interested in her, I would not start up a relationship right now. Especially knowing it will be LDR and will likely stay LDR for at least a few more years.
I'm not sending this to you as an adult trying to downplay the feelings of teens. I started going out with my SO when we were 15. However, we nearly broke up before he went to college and I already knew at that point that I was in love with him. It just isn't easy. My best friend was also LDR for a couple years, but she met a boy she really liked here and they broke up and it was kind of tragic for them. Just trying to make you aware.
It CAN work. It just isn't easy and with the stresses already placed on you by society and biology as a teen, it's even harder.
I would advise you to talk to your parents about this girl merely as your friend and continue to talk and maybe flirt with her via PSH and see where things go. LDR takes commitment. Just take it slow. And don't let your hormones carry you away in the flood.

[kiara_silver]

I met my SO online at 16, right before my 17th birthday. It's not easy. And we were over 4000 miles apart. It takes real commitment, and communication, understanding that this is going to be a challenge. Can you handle a relationship where you may not meet for a few years? And then after meeting, not able to close the distance for awhile? Because this is the biggest challenge in a LDR. If you think you and her can handle this I say go for it, because yes it's hard, but it has been so worth it. The best thing i have ever done was say yes to being my SO's girl. And I also say start saving up! But I would continue talking to her first, get to know her better and fully. You don't need to rush things, and something as serious as a relationship. So take your time. You guys only started talking two weeks ago, that's not really enough time to make a decision like this. But over all go with your gut.

[djs1345]

Thank You for the advice. It really put this frustrating puzzle together.

[Zephii]

Take it slowly. You can just remain good close flirty friends for a while, you don't have to lock anything in stone. There's really no reason to rush
I met my husband online (he's from Canada too) and we were unofficial for the first four years of knowing each other - though we said "I love you" and we sent gifts and photos and cybered and cammed and all my friends/family knew about him.
We too were afraid of missing out on something if we commited to each other. And in those four years we did date other people (and it wasn't easy for either of us seeing the other with a bf/gf!) - but when you love someone, you can't just will it to go away. If you need to be with HER, you wont be happy with anyone closer, and vise versa. So my advice would be not to rush in. Enjoy the young flirty courtship stage, with all the butterflies and long distance romance, and if it turns into something that's great