Usually I'd be dying to talk to my boyfriend, even if we were fighting or something. He kind of pissed me off last night--it was stupid. We were on AIM. He had spent an hour or so with just being difficult with me--banter that we typically do. It got the point where I was just annoyed to no end with him because all he kept saying for the span of 15 minutes was "uh huh." He knows I hate it. i've told him countless times how much I do. So I straight up told him to talk to me again when his vocabulary had increased. He said NOTHING for ten minutes and then said he was tired and going to bed. I asked why and we actually got a conversation going. I said something about it and he said that it was really time for him to go because he could tell he was tired because conversation had started. He then said that in the words of some girl in my brother's class back home (My boyfriend now lives with my grandparents) that "Conversation was icky." I asked why the girl had suddenly come up and he said "uh huh." I lost it and told him to just go to bed. Then he just signed off with a "k, night."
We've talked countless times about how our communication sucks when we're apart. We've both thrown out ideas for how to make it better. When I try to use the things we've agreed on that may work out for us, he shoots me down. He NEVER initiates any conversation and I'm honestly getting sick of it. I realize that his "conversation is icky" comment was meant to be funny, but in context and with how I'm feeling I don't see it as funny at all. It's really hurtful in a way. I feel like I'm the only one trying to fix a problem we're both very aware of.
I have no intention of throwing in the towel. I just don't feel like talking to him if I feel like he doesn't want to talk to me. I don't know maybe I'm being overly sensitive and expecting too much from him, but it would be nice to feel like he wants to TALK and have an actual CONVERSATION with me. He's the one who brought up the fact that we don't talk like we used to when we first got together and were CD. I know the distance would have put a strain on it, but I would expect the person who said he had a specific problem with it to put in more effort in that area.
Am I just being stupid?
We've talked countless times about how our communication sucks when we're apart. We've both thrown out ideas for how to make it better. When I try to use the things we've agreed on that may work out for us, he shoots me down. He NEVER initiates any conversation and I'm honestly getting sick of it. I realize that his "conversation is icky" comment was meant to be funny, but in context and with how I'm feeling I don't see it as funny at all. It's really hurtful in a way. I feel like I'm the only one trying to fix a problem we're both very aware of.
I have no intention of throwing in the towel. I just don't feel like talking to him if I feel like he doesn't want to talk to me. I don't know maybe I'm being overly sensitive and expecting too much from him, but it would be nice to feel like he wants to TALK and have an actual CONVERSATION with me. He's the one who brought up the fact that we don't talk like we used to when we first got together and were CD. I know the distance would have put a strain on it, but I would expect the person who said he had a specific problem with it to put in more effort in that area.
Am I just being stupid?
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